Emotionally Intelligent Parenting with Stephanie Pinto
by Stephanie Pinto
"In order to raise emotionally intelligent kids, we must first become emotionally intelligent parents." - Stephanie Pinto. I hope you love this podcast and find the episodes entertaining and educational - we're going to cover all things emotional intelligence, parenting, kids, behaviour, emotions, school and more! If you have a question you'd like support, advice and ideas on - send them through and I'll answer them on the podcast! Email us at [email protected] 💐 Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 125,000+ parents in the community! 🎉 ➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids Hi! I'm an award-winning Emotional Intelligence coach, best-selling author, and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives.</
Episodes
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132: "How Do I Get Them To Listen The FIRST Time?" 7 Ways to Avoid Blowups
This is it! Finally! 7 absolutely foolproof ways to get your kids to listen the FIRST time. Ok ok – you got me. I lied. There is no way (unless you consider instilling intense fear by yelling and threats) Sorry for the clickbait but I still get asked this by many a parent when I’m coaching,...
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131: 10 Things to Say Instead of STOP CRYING!
“Stop crying” is probably the most automatic sentence in parenting, and I said it to my own child in the middle of a carpark after a kids’ party. (Plus a thousand more times over the yeras I'm sure). Today I explain why it ACTUALLY comes out of our mouths so fast, and how the way we were parented...
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130: "They'll Never Learn Without Consequences, Right?!"
A while back, I posted a reel of my son spilling soda on the couch and me NOT punishing him. It got over 1 million views, and the comments were INSANE. The question I heard most was “Don’t kids need consequences??” Yeees BUT they’re almost never what most of us think. And they do not have to hurt...
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129: Raise Resilient Kids With Just 3 Messages
🎁 FREEBIE ALERT: Get your Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Cheat Sheet Bundle here: www.stephaniepinto.com/gifts When your child struggles, every instinct says to find the problem and fix it. But 99% of the time, that actually making things harder (sorry!) Most of the world around us, from the...
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128: The Sensory Code with Laura Petix (Occupational Therapist)
What if your child's most baffling behaviour isn't defiance or attitude at all? Consequences, reward charts, and bribes haven't stopped the meltdowns, refusals, or shutdowns. That's because it's not about discipline. It's about the sensory system (that no-one teaches us by the way!) I'm joined by...
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127: The Validation Trap: What the Research Actually Says
Ever caught yourself doing "all the right things" emotionally with your kid only to watch it somehow make things worse? In this episode, I'm breaking down something most parenting content won't tell you: the research on why constant emotional narration can backfire, and where the real line is...
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126: Six Steps to De-Escalating Big Emotions (And the Meltdown at Taronga Zoo)
Imagine standing in the middle of a zoo (or a supermarket, or a school pickup line) watching your child completely fall apart and feeling completely frozen... This is what I'm talking about today! This episode right here is your turning point. I'm walking you through my six-step de-escalation...
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125: Tummy Aches, Tears, and Panic: Anxiety in Kids.
Anxiety Masterclass tickets here: www.stephaniepinto.com/anxious-masterclass Ever stood in the school car park while your child clings to you, pleading they can’t go in, and thought… is this ever going to get easier? Or your teen is shutting themselves away in their room, refusing to go to social...
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124: What to Do When Your Child Is Overwhelmed: The ABCs of Co-Regulation
Ever had a moment where your child’s reaction felt way bigger than the situation? 🌋 A small thing turns into a huge meltdown. Logic doesn’t land. Consequences do NOT work. And you’re thinking "what am I supposed to do right now?" This is for you! Today I’m joined by Elizabeth Sautter, a...
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123: My 10 Most Underrated Ways To Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids
Everyone talks about rules, consequences, and behaviour, but emotional intelligence? That’s the piece almost no one talks about!! And yet it’s the thing that actually shapes how kids handle life, relationships, and themselves. Today I’m sharing 10 of the most underrated ways to raise emotionally...
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122: A Mini Masterclass on Cooperation (Without Yelling)
Freebie Gift: Resource Bundle link is below! Ever feel like getting your kids to cooperate is like negotiating with dictators who happen to share your DNA? 🤣 Last episode (on a similar topic) was so popular that this week I made a mini masterclass on cooperation! I'm sharing 20 emotionally...
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121: The Secret to Raising Cooperative, Emotionally Resilient Kids
Psst... Scroll for the link to my book on emotionally intelligent parenting! What if parenting didn’t have to rely on punishment, guilt, or constant power struggles? Yep. Really. Today I'm actually the one being interviewed! My friend Amy Nesbitt had me on her podcast, Whole Wellness Mamas, and…
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120: Emotional Intelligence and the Art of Getting Kids to Open Up
Talking about feelings can be hard, for kids AND parents. Some kids talk freely, others shut down, and many sit somewhere in between. If you’ve ever felt unsure how to help your child open up, or worried about what’s going on beneath the surface, this episode is for you. Silence isn’t defiance —...
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119: When Your Child is The Bully: This Parent Was in Shock.
This one’s an eye-opener. An 11-year-old boy is suspended from school for bullying. His parent is devastated, confused, and in shock. They turned to my parenting community online for help and ask a question so many parents would ask in that moment: “Besides taking away electronics, what else can…
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118: Triggers, Tantrums, and Techniques That Work
You promise yourself you won’t yell… and then suddenly, you have. Maybe your child’s tantrum isn’t even that big, but something in YOU snaps. If you’ve ever wondered why you react the way you do, even when you know better, this episode is for you. Today I’m not talking about how to “fix” your...
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117: Mini Masterclass on Emotional Intelligence 2026
FREE MINI EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE MASTERCLASS!! Even though emotional intelligence gets talked about a lot, I think it's actually understood very little. So I decided to record a free, mini masterclass for you all and publish it on the podcast. I have stripped it back for you all and rebuilt it...
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116: How to Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids in 2026 (Without Doing More)
Parenting in 2026 isn’t harder because you’re doing it wrong. Trust me! It’s harder because the old tools don’t work anymore. Today it's the first episode of the year!! So I’m reintroducing the foundation of emotionally intelligent parenting and sharing why emotional intelligence is no longer...
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115: The A+ Kid Who Says He’s Being Bullied… Then Takes It Back. What’s Really Going On?
Ever had your child tell you something worrying, only for them to suddenly deny it? Or stress endlessly about tests and friendships but won’t let you help? 🥴 In this special 2 year anniversary episode, I’m diving into one of the most emotionally complex listener questions I’ve received so far. A...
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114: Top 10 Lessons That Changed How I Parent (and Teach Emotional Intelligence)
What if… the way you’ve been trying to “stay calm!” “set boundaries!” or “teach emotional regulation!” is actually the wrong way around? In this special 2-year anniversary episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast — I’m sharing the 10 big lessons that completely changed the way I...
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113: Repair Over Perfection: Raising Emotionally Resilient Toddlers with Devon from Transforming Toddlerhood.
What if the secret to raising confident, emotionally resilient toddlers isn’t about getting it right all the time — but what we do after things go wrong? In this heartwarming and honest conversation, I sit down with Devon Kuntzman, founder of Transforming Toddlerhood and the original toddler...
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112: My Post on Kids' Anger Went Viral: I'm Burning These Myths to the Ground.
At the start of this year, I shared a post on Instagram about children and anger, and it went VIRAL. Hundreds of thousands of parents liked, shared, and commented, because it hit home in such a powerful way. Why? Because so many of us have been fed myths about what anger in kids means, and what...
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111: How To NOT Just Survive The Kid/Teen Years.
Raising kids and teens can be hard right... but you don’t have to do it alone. Self-care and prioritising our wellness is also hard... do you know why most of us actually don't do it? My guest does! Drum roll please... because today I sat down with the one and only Amy Nesbitt, host of the Whole...
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110: Breaking the Rules: Why Neurodivergent Kids Push Back with Christina Keeble
If you’ve ever felt like traditional parenting advice, or even the school system, just doesn’t FIT your child, especially if they’re neurodivergent, this episode is going to shift your perspective. I’m joined by the brilliant Christina Keeble—an AuDHD mother of two neurodivergent PDAers, and a...
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109: Own Your Story: How to Finally Stop Repeating the Past, with Lael Stone
Ever wonder why, no matter how hard you try, you keep slipping back into the same old parenting reactions? The ones you swore you’d never repeat? You're in the right place. Today I spoke with Lael Stone, educator, TEDx speaker, parenting counsellor, and now author of the brand-new book Own Your...
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108: The Emotional Intelligence Cheat Sheet for Heated Moments
MIC DROP MOMENT! So I have now come to question every situation I've been in because... what if every argument, every eye-roll, every “you’re so unfair!” moment… isn’t just something to survive, but an invitation to finally break old habits and RECREATE who you are in the face of stress and...
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107: Self-Regulation BEFORE Co-Regulation?! (I Was Shocked Too): Nervous System Parenting with Justin Sunseri
Most people believe that parenting is all about managing your child’s behaviour. But the truth is BOTH your child’s outbursts AND your own reactions are driven by your nervous systems. And no-one knows this stuff! In this powerful and validating conversation, I sit down with Justin Sunseri (LMFT...
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106: The One Emotional Pattern That Predicts Breakups (and How to Stop It)
You’re trying to be supportive. They says you’re not listening. You open up emotionally. They try to fix it. And bam, you’re both frustrated, annoyed and wondering what went wrong. Ugh (been there!). Today I'm going deep into one of the MOST overlooked emotional patterns that quietly causes...
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105: 10 Underrated Ways to Boost Your Emotional Intelligence
🧠 Think emotional intelligence is just about journaling, naming emotions or deep breathing? Think again. In this episode, I’m sharing 10 underrated, unknown and even unexpected, science-backed ways to develop your emotional intelligence. Strategies most people NEVER talk about, but that…
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104: When Calm Feels Impossible: A Nervous System Lens on Parenting Anger.
Calling all unicorns who never get frustrated or angry! This episode isn't for you 😉 Ok, let's be real. The true statistic is 100% of parents have those moments where they snap, shout, or shut down... and then feel awful. You want to stay calm. You want to be patient. But sometimes it just……
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103: When Your Child Sees or Hears Explicit Content: How We Explained Inappropriate Content using Emotional Intelligence.
Today we share a real-life moment when our child heard SUPER inappropriate language online. We talk about how we responded, how we used emotional intelligence to stay connected, and how to set boundaries without shame. If you're navigating tricky online influences with your kids, this is a...
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102: Mum vs Dad: The Best Way to Handle Power Struggles (Hubby is back on the podcast!)
Power struggles: we’ve all been there! Sometimes daily. This was us a few years back - but no more. Your kid digs their heels in, you dig yours in deeper—and suddenly you're in a full-blown standoff over socks, screen time, or sandwiches. 🙃 In this juicy and very real episode, my husband Alex is...
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101: I pulled off a miracle!!! Zero-Nag, Zero-Tantrum Hack That WORKED.
Guys, this weekend I did the impossible: got the kids and my husband to do a giant tidy-up, without bribes, threats, nagging, or anyone fake-crying in the laundry. And all I used? Half a sheet of paper and a pencil. No yelling, no sticker charts, no power struggles, just emotional intelligence, a...
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100: How One Step Changed Everything: My Emotional Intelligence Journey (100TH EPISODE!)
It’s here — Episode 100! 🎉 In this special milestone episode, I take you behind the scenes of my journey from anxious, overwhelmed mum to founder of a global movement for emotionally intelligent parenting. From starting with just 10 people in a Facebook group to writing a bestselling book and...
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99: How NOT To Raise Snowflakes: This Is What Real Resilience Looks Like.
Talking to kids about emotions is only going to make them soft snowflakes. Letting kids show their emotions opens them up to bullying or means they're going to walk all over us when they're mad. Right? Think again. In this episode, I’m calling out one of the biggest parenting myths around…
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98: The Internet Told This Mum to Punish Her 10-Year-Old's Behaviour (SO Much Wrong!!!)
(🎁 Scroll down for my gift!! 🎁) When a mum shared online that she blew up at her 10-year-old daughter, who then jumped out of the car in a crowded carpark, the comments went WILD. Everyone flooded in with BAD ADVICE. “Take her devices!” “Be stricter!” “Punish her for being disrespectful!” Are…
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97: No-one Is Talking About This!
If people knew this... it would supercharge their patience!! 🤯 #triggers You know that moment!! Your child slams a door, rolls their eyes, or talks back, and you SNAP. And later you’re like: “Why did that hit me so hard??” (Psst, scroll down for your GIFT! 🎁 🎁 🎁) You’re not crazy. You’re...
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96: Are You Parenting The HARD Way or The EASY Way?
A parent called me out in front of everyone at a live parenting workshop in Sydney recently!! EEK. (🎁 Scroll down for my gift!!!) Basically they said: "Why bother with emotional intelligence? Isn’t it faster to just punish and move on?" He’s right about one thing. This kind of parenting does…
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95: Get Your Kids to TIDY UP! (The Emotionally Intelligent Way)
Tired of yelling, bribing, or threatening your kids just to get them to clean up? I was. And I was at my wits' end. Until, I found this thing called Emotional Intelligence. In this video, I share simple yet powerful emotional intelligence strategies to help you get both younger and older kids to...
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94: How NOT to Explode When Your Kids Push Your Buttons! (Emotional Intelligence Hack for Parents!)
Kids talking back, being stubborn or seemingly rude can flip a switch in us, FAST! You’re doing your best, then BAM, you're hit with a “You’re not the boss of me!” or “Ugh, I don’t care!” and suddenly, your calm goes out the window. If you’ve ever found yourself yelling, threatening, or feeling...
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93: Stop the Bedtime Chaos... Without Yelling or Losing It!
😩 "WHY is bedtime so hard?!" If you’ve ever ended the night totally frazzled, snapping at your kids, and crashing on the couch in defeat—you are NOT alone. Our bedtime routine used to feel like a battlefield too. I was controlling, exhausted, and low-key blaming my husband (sorry babe!). But the...
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92: Use This Immediate Calming Tool When You're About to Explode! With Jackie Black.
What if I told you there’s a powerful parenting tool that almost no one is using... BUT it could completely change how you handle stress, overwhelm, and chaos with your kids? Today, we’re diving into a lesser-known but incredibly powerful emotional intelligence strategy called heart coherence.…
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91: When You're Trapped in the Car With Fighting Kids... Here's How To NOT LOSE IT and Calm the Chaos.
Ever been trapped in the car with kids screaming, fighting, and pushing every single one of your buttons... while you’re just trying to drive safely and not lose your mind?! Yep, same. In this video, I share how I handled a real-life backseat meltdown using emotional intelligence (instead of...
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90: Stop "Fixing" Your Kid’s Feelings!! Do THIS Instead (It Builds Emotional Intelligence!)
Are you constantly jumping in to rescue your child from big feelings, tantrums, or tough moments? You’re not alone!! So many of us were raised to believe that love means fixing, rescuing, or distracting. But what if there’s a better way? (Spoiler alert. There is.) Today I explore how emotional...
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89: The Emotionally Intelligent Way To Handle Conflict (without yelling and door slamming).
Emotional intelligence isn’t about being calm, Zen, or turning into some emotionless monk who never gets triggered. It’s about knowing exactly what’s going on inside you before things blow up—and using that intel to stop fights before they even start. You know those moments when someone says that...
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88: Manipulative? Attention-Seeking? What's Going On With Misbehaving, Naughty Kids.
Ever caught yourself saying, “They’re just being manipulative” or “They only act out for attention”? (I have!!) I'm gonna pause you right there. Because what if that so-called “bad” behaviour… isn’t bad at all? I know, sounds ridiculous... hear me out. 👇 In this video, I’m flipping the parenting...
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87: Who Are You Calling Soft?? Emotional Intelligence Is NOT About Being a 'Nice' Person.
Have you ever been around someone who’s like, “Emotional intelligence is being all soft, sweet, and floating around in a cloud of feelings all day…” and you’re like, “Aww, that’s cute. NO.” Emotional intelligence is not about being calm all the time. It’s not about never getting angry, or letting...
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86: "Control Your Emotions" Is TERRIBLE Advice.
I’m coming in hot with a truth bomb that might just flip your parenting, your self-awareness, and your whole emotional vibe on its head. Who's heard that we must learn to “control our emotions”? ME. A million times... Newsflash: This is TERRIBLE advice. Yep, I said it. So if you've ever gritted...
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85: The Discipline Lie: Why Everything We Were Taught Was Wrong PLUS It Doesn't Work on Kids Anyway.
Ever been told that "kids just need some good ol' fashioned discipline" to learn their lesson? Yeah... let’s talk about why that advice needs to go straight to the recycling bin. I'm pulling back the curtain on the real difference between discipline and punishment — and why confusing the two can...
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84: This is How the World’s Happiest People Raise Kids: Danish Parenting with Jessica Joelle Alexander.
What if the secret to raising calm, confident, and connected kids has been quietly thriving in Denmark this whole time?? (It's been ranked in the top 5 happiest countries for over 40 years!) Not in a high-tech lab. Not in a parenting trend. But in a culture that consistently tops the charts as…
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83: "Why Am I So Angry at My Kids?”: You're Not Broken, You're Repeating Cycles, with Shelly Robinson.
Have you ever found yourself snapping at your kids and then sinking into a wave of guilt, thinking, “I swore I’d be different!!!” 😭 In this powerful and heart-opening episode of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, I’m joined by Shelly Robinson, conscious parenting coach and founder of...
About this show
"In order to raise emotionally intelligent kids, we must first become emotionally intelligent parents." - Stephanie Pinto.
I hope you love this podcast and find the episodes entertaining and educational - we're going to cover all things emotional intelligence, parenting, kids, behaviour, emotions, school and more!
If you have a question you'd like support, advice and ideas on - send them through and I'll answer them on the podcast! Email us at [email protected]
💐 Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 125,000+ parents in the community! 🎉
➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids
Hi! I'm an award-winning Emotional Intelligence coach, best-selling author, and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives.</
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