86: The Shadow Side of Empathy: When Empathy Goes Awry

What this episode covers

The dark side of empathy. There’s nothing wrong with empathy or helping, but where it is coming from? Is the way you are seeing people when you support ultimately disempowering them? Who are you being in experiences where you support, help, heal, or be there for others? This episode is not just for healers, empaths, wellness practitioners, or those in the helping profession — this is for everybody who has relationships to themselves and others. An Empathy Cleanse so that we can truly be honoring of each other in this life. In this episode: where empathy can go wrong or too far, how we might put ourselves aside and where empathy supports self-avoidance or abandonment, my story of shifting in consciousness around being a healer, respecting others’ in their wholeness, and SEEING. Also, a bit here on how supporting others, acceptance of death, respecting each others’ journeys, ancestry or past life, narcissist/empath and other victim/perpetrator agreements and dynamics, and codependency all connect in this conversation about empathy.   Links, Article, and Resources All Show Notes for This Episode 📝https://candicewu.com/empathyshadow  Podcast Homepage 🎧 https://candicewu.com/podcast Newsletter & Embody Community 💌 https://candicewu.com/embody-community Patreon – Your Support Means So Much! 💝 https://candicewu.com/patreon Candice Wu Page on Facebook 👫 https://facebook.com/EmbodyYourNature Follow Candice on Instagram 📷 https://instagram.com/EmbodyYourNature   Thank YOU for your support! If the Embody Podcast has inspired you, helped, or spoken to you, it would mean the world to me if you would show your support through a contribution. I am shifting from Patreon to housing the support page on my website so more of your contribution can go straight to the podcast. Each episode is a lovingly made from my soul and takes anywhere from weeks to a few days to develop and produce. I gladly pay an editor who supports me in polishing and creating high-quality episodes. Any support you give nourishes the podcast to continue to have life and cover the costs. Plus you’ll receive some sweet personalized healing gifts from me that can deepen your embodiment on your own journey. I am excited to share these with you. I am so appreciative that you are considering supporting me in this way. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! ❤ To learn more about how you can contribute you can go to CandiceWu.com/support   Show Notes 00:00 Intro 01:32 Thank You for Your Support 04:10 Loving Michigan and the Call to Be on the Ground 06:11 Following my Feeling Sense and what Feels Easy and Light 08:53 Update About EP84 - Claiming the Past Life Experience 18:13 When Empathy Goes Too Far the Layers of Who You Are Now 21:42 How I Am Now? 25:22 I Was the Function of the Healing Not Just the Healer 37:34 How Are We Using Our Gifts? 38:11 About Empathy: My Story 39:52 When Empathy Hurts and a Healthy Vision 44:05 Why the “Empath, Savior, or Parental” Figure Position? 45:07 Narcissist / Empath Dynamic 47:36 When We Put the Needs of Others Over Our Own (Out of Balance Mother Child Dynamic) 52:25 Value of Selfless and Selfishness 57:06 Selflessness Can Be Actually Avoidance 58:53 Being a Care - Taker vs Being Caring 01:00:25 The Archetype of the Wounded Healer 01:00:58 Endings and Death: Respecting Everyones’ Path 01:04:00 Questions for You to Explore 01:06:05 Your Feedback & Thoughts? 01:06:33 Credits & Podcast Mentions in This Episode 01:08:46 The Embody Newsletter 01:09:06 Gratitude