#86: "Why" Work Part 3 - What Now?

In this episode, we talk about the interplay between the "why" work and the "what now" work.  The why work is heavy in the beginning of the process, and continues to "hum" in the background - but the "what now" begins to take more and more precedence, or at least that is what we hope for. This wasn't said in the episode but I want to say - I think the why work oftentimes takes a lot of intentionality (which means time) to take shape.  I don't want to give the impression that the why work is easy - Jason continues to have revelations about his why two decades in! Let's make sure we understand the difference between the two:  the why is the awareness and insight work v the what now is the character work.  And that is JUST as important.  Jason said early in this episode: the what now work is a new conscious way of living in light of the why.  Love. Jason reviews a couple of cautions: "what now" should not be "fix it" oriented. the "why" shouldn't be a license to not look at the "what now" - and the opposite also applies - the "what now" shouldn't be a license to not look at the "why".  {And I realize - I am using double negatives here - please ignore!} the "what now" work can veer toward self-sufficiency and we have to remember that we do some of the work and God does the work in us as well. And a point of encouragement - doing the what now work can be empowering! As for practical next steps: consider: where are you stuck in the why? what are the character qualities that you DO want to live into? Bottom line - we don't want to get so stuck in the why to the point where we aren't able to move forward into the "what do I do now".  And in that - the "what now" can be empowering to lean into - sometimes, like Jason shared in the final story - it takes a reframe. We are so glad YOU are here, thanks for joining us for Season #7. Join the Wait List here so that you are the first to know about the next WOHT workshop for men coming April 4-6, 2025 outside Austin, TX. Would love for you to consider joining me at the Spring 2025 Women's Retreat - you can join the wait list here.  More details coming soon! Empowered Boundaries is SOLD OUT as of yesterday. Join the Wait List to be the first to know when the class opens again for registration. Make sure you download the Podcast Freebies! You can do that here.   For more information on RL Academy, click here. Join the community on Instagram - @shelley_martinkus. We offer 1:1 coaching, couples recovery coaching, support groups, MasterClasses and on-line courses - check out our websites: redemptiveliving.com and rlforwomen.com for the full scoop! Click here to subscribe to Shelley's {almost} monthly letter + announcements. Click here to subscribe to Jason's list. Questions for the Podcast? Email us with the subject line: Podcast.