91: Growing and Reinvention with Rebecca Cafiero (Enneagram 7)

Breaking free.Too much, too loud, too talkative, too fast. Being labeled this way was a painful experience for Rebecca. As an Enneagram 7, she was passionate about everything—all the time—and brimming with ideas. But her joy was a source of contention and conflict.Listen now “If I follow what I love, there's going to be pain attached.” This became Rebecca’s balancing act. Did she follow the path to where she was meant to be or did she dim herself, silence herself to fill another role?For a long time she felt so much conflict in following her joy that she tried to dim down and follow other people’s rules.“That sounds great, but what do you really want?”Finally, at age 25, Rebecca’s life coach became the first person to ask her what she really wanted and gave her permission to speak her truth.She realized that trying to make other people happy is never going to make you happy, so you might as well do what you can to follow your joy and hope that other people are inspired by what you create along the way.Rebecca’s story.Rebecca Cafiero is a marketing + PR strategist, TEDx Speaker, the podcast host of Becoming You, best selling author and mother of two. Prior to becoming an entrepreneur, she was an award-winning journalist and spent a decade in Corporate America leading sales and marketing teams.She is a frequent speaker on personal branding and marketing, getting published, being seen as an expert, and personal optimization. And she doesn’t only do this for herself—she helps other entrepreneurs feel empowered and give themselves permission to do the work as well.She’s passionate about helping female entrepreneurs increase credibility, visibility, and cash flow.Quotes:5:15 RebeccaWhen I followed my passion as a kid and followed my joy it was a source of contention.5:53 RebeccaI always learned that if I follow what I love, there's going to be pain attached.7:53 Rebecca Trying to make other people happy is never going to make you happy.10:07. RebeccaI was looking for all this validation from outside people telling me that I was great, and I was great, but I wasn't great at things that made me feel great.17:06You don't have to arrive somewhere to be credible to show somebody the way.22:25 Rebecca People want to talk to everyone and they're talking to no one.27:33 RebeccaI see people as their future self and I don’t see their excuses or shortcomings.27:49I give it to you straight and with love because I don't see a disconnect between where you are and where you want to be.36:58Understanding that the difference of a hobby and a business that bridge can be crossed very quickly when you have clarity.37:53Yes influencing is important but impact is more important.