96. Break-up Recovery: Can we really ever get 'Closure'?

Send Gemma a messageSpecial Announcements:New Group Coaching Program: "Date Differently": A 6-week online group coaching program designed to help women build self-trust, set boundaries, and date with confidence. Starts November 6th. SIGN UP BEFORE 26TH OCT AND SAVE!Signature Course – The Red Flag Project: This newly updated course covers schemas, red flags, and how to recognize unavailable partners. It’s recommended to take the course before joining the coaching program to get the most out of the sessions. Access it here.  Special limited time discount code: HERBESTLIFEEpisode Summary: In this episode, Gemma Gladstone tackles a listener's question about break-up recovery and the elusive concept of closure.  Drawing from her extensive experience as a therapist over the last 25 years, she provides practical advice on healing after a painful breakup, what to do and what not to do as well as managing lingering feelings.Key Points:Introduction to Listener's Question:A listener, referred to as "Lisa," shares her experience of a difficult breakup with a partner who exhibited love-bombing behavior.Lisa is conflicted about seeking closure by expressing her feelings to her ex versus moving on without further contact.Understanding Love Bombing:Gemma explains the dynamics of love bombing and its association with narcissistic traits.The importance of recognizing red flags early in relationships.Healing Tips Post-Breakup:No Contact Rule: Avoid all forms of contact with the ex-partner, including social media, to facilitate healing.Avoid Rumination: Recognize and interrupt patterns of overthinking and counterfactual thinking to prevent emotional stagnation.Validate Your Emotions: Acknowledge and accept your feelings of grief and sadness as a natural part of the healing process.Mindfulness and Self-Compassion:Techniques to become aware of and manage unhelpful thoughts.The role of self-compassion in validating and soothing your emotional pain.Avoiding Rebound Relationships:The dangers of jumping into new relationships or casual encounters too soon.The importance of self-reflection and understanding personal patterns before starting a new relationship.The Concept of Closure:Differentiating between seeking resolution and seeking closure.Understanding that closure often involves needing something from the other person, which may not always be possible.The importance of finding closure within oneself rather than relying on external validation or apologies.CONNECT WITH USThe Red Flag Project: a place for women to do the self-development they need to choose loving, respectful relationships.InstagramFacebookClick the link below to find out more about our online dating course, our course on schema chemistry and how to break free from love-traps and our online membership The Schema Circle.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theredflagprojectSupport the show🎓FREE LIVE MASTERCLASS - Why smart women override red flags in dating😊Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind guided program🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List  ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY Connect with Me 📩[email protected]  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here