96. Creating Safety in Your Body and Mind

As a coach, I cannot create safety for you But I can model safety in my own self... Which ripples out.   Luis Mojica said: “The real service (of coaching/therapy, etc) is relating to a safe person.”   This quote got me thinking back to when I first started helping myself after decades of unprocessed trauma.   I made myself be heard.   I stopped holding my stories and traumas inside of my body and mind.   It literally was making me sick to hold it in…and I held it in out of fear of judgment, being told I was “too sensitive,” being “too much” etc.   Here’s what I learned:   --I needed to be heard to heal. --You need to be heard, too. --Your quiet thoughts need to be said out loud --Your desires need to be verbalized --Your struggles need to be witnessed --You need to be heard and not judged. --Expression is foundational when it comes to finding safety in yourself. In your body and your life.   THIS is part of the magic at the heart of trauma informed coaching and somatic therapy.   It will not work if you do not feel seen, heard, and accepted. It will work WONDERS if you do feel seen, heard, and radically accepted.   This is co-regulation. This is how we find, nourish, and grow safety within. . . Schedule a 1-hr connection call with me to see if we're a good fit for 1-1 coaching: ⁠https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/Schedule\⁠ Free class: Healing with Spirit Guides: ⁠https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/spirit-guides Free Relationship Alchemy Masterclass: ⁠ https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/signup