98. Fluctuating Between Good and Horrible; The extreme highs and lows of toxic relationships

If you've contemplated leaving a toxic relationship but then get confused and question your decision because of the 'good times,' then this episode is for you. This episode explores the fluctuating dynamics of toxic relationships, focusing on the cycle of extremes in good and bad experiences, which leads to abuse and trauma bonding. The host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS, discusses the psychological tactics used by abusers, including intermittent reinforcement and love bombing, to maintain control over their victims. The discussion includes insights from the book 'Why Does He Do That?' by Lundy Bancroft and findings from Chuck Derry’s research on abusive men. The episode emphasizes the ways to influence the release from the cycle and the importance of recognizing these manipulative behaviors, setting boundaries, and reclaiming one's sense of self. Deborah offers advice on moving forward and the benefits of cutting ties with manipulative individuals.00:00 Introduction to Toxic Relationships00:46 Understanding Trauma Bonding01:49 The Cycle of Abuse03:31 Do Abusers Know What They're Doing?05:29 Benefits Abusers Gain11:49 Motivations to Stop Abuse14:35 Empowerment and Setting Boundaries18:17 Personal Reflections and Moving ForwardTo learn more or connect with the host visit:www.InnerSourceTherapy.com