98. Neurodivergence in Marriage with Jodi Carlton: Navigating Different Operating Systems

In Episode 98, we are joined by master educator and neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton! We explore what it really looks like to build a thriving marriage when partners operate on completely different relational "wiring". Instead of looking at autism or ADHD as a deficit, we challenge the idea of "normal" and discuss how to understand these differences simply as differently wired operating systems. We dive deep into the "double empathy problem," navigating extreme sensory differences in the bedroom, and how to stop treating your partner like a project to be fixed. In this episode, we cover: Difference vs. Deficit: Why neurodivergence is a unique operating system—not a defect. Intimacy & Sensory Differences: Navigating how sensory sensitivities (like smells, textures, and touch) impact physical desire and connection. The Power of Pause: Why you cannot be curious when your nervous system is in "fight or flight," and how to use timeouts to get regulated. Clarity & Curiosity: How asking simple "Why" questions can get you out of protective loops and build a shared bridge of understanding. Important Links & Announcements: 💻 Website: Find all our resources, worksheets, and podcast episodes at www.langfordlifecoaching.com. 🌟 Group Coaching: Ready to take your relationship to the next level? Join our couples group program: https://langfordlifecoaching.com/group-coaching. 📞 Free Consultation: Book a free 45-minute consultation with us here: https://langfordlifecoaching.as.me/schedule/3633d974/appointment/12770844. 🎧 Listen & Subscribe: Rate, review, and subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or watch us on YouTube!