A Foolproof Approach to Decision Making with Marin Laukka

How do your values influence the way you make decisions? In this episode, we’re joined by decision coach and speaker Marin Laukka. Marin has a master’s in Developmental Psychology as well as certifications in life coaching and yoga. With her business Yes&, Marin supports women to clarify what they want in life so they can make confident, expansive decisions. She’s also the author of “Ready Enough: Your 7-Step Guide for Life’s Hardest Decisions.” Marin is going to share her tips for uncomplicated decision making. FYI - I apologize for the poor quality of my audio on this episode. I do not have any idea where the distortion came from. My editor did the best job he could at fixing it. Thankfully, I haven't had this problem recur. On this episode of the Live. Love. Engage. podcast: What inspired Marin to pursue a career as a decision coach. Why Marin no longer calls herself an alignment coach. The reason so many people struggle to make decisions. Why you’re ready enough to make an informed decision. How making an informed decision looks different for different people. Where the name of her business came from. The step to making decisions people tend to resist most. The biggest challenge Marin had to overcome and why she’s grateful for it. A metaphor that tends to help her clients start making confident decisions. What to do when you make the wrong decision. Why it’s important to assume every decision is right to some degree. What excites Marin the most about the work she does. What happens when you let go of people pleasing. The trait Marin sees in her clients and the balance they need to find. A useful tool for getting unstuck on decision making. The importance of setting and sticking to boundaries. Connect with Marin Marin’s website: https://www.yesandbymarin.com Quick Links: Join the Live. Love. Engage. Community Intuitive Business Coaching The Live. Love. Engage. 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Thank you so much for having me very excited to be here. well, I am really deci I was gonna start reading what your bio was. And I was like, I’m really excited. But if, if you caught that, if you were listening, you, you may understand what I was starting to say. So she is a decision coach and speaker with a master's degree in positive developmental psychology and certifications in life coaching and yoga. And as the business owner of Yes&. She passionately supports women to clarify what they want in life and strengthen self trust so they can make more confident, expansive decisions. And she's also the number one new release author of ready enough, your seven-step guide for life's hardest decisions. And see, I was gonna say. I'm really decided to instead of excited, cause I was putting it together. but I, that leads me to my first question for you is I would love to know what made you decide to be a decision coach? How did that, how did that come about? Yes. Hopefully this provides assurance for anyone out there who feels undecided or like they have not decided about some aspects of. Of life, be it a niche or, a career path or a relationship or where they're living. It took a while. And I have come to accept that this will always be a process and granted decision coach, and now I've written a book on it and I host speaking events. So it feels pretty set at this point. But it was definitely a windy path. So for a long time, I actually called myself a alignment coach, because really what the crux of this decision making is for the clients who see me is they want to make decisions that are aligned with their authentic truth, with their authentic self. And so it started off as alignment coach, but that is very vague. And someone coming into that has no idea what that means. What are we aligning with? Why are we aligning? What does that look like? And so when I really tuned in and, and took a pause and thought, what am I really helping clients do? And what am I really passionate about? It's helping people to make More authentic decisions and those decisions can be career changes or, I have a lot of people because this is part of my story, deciding whether or not to come, go into or leave or stay in, graduate school. So that part of career as well, the educational pathways, or it can be something like, do I, you know, decide to Shovel my own yard or hire someone else to do that. We were talking about shoveling before we hit record. So it doesn't necessarily have to be these huge decisions. In fact, I'm a huge proponent that how we do anything is how we do everything. So whether we're talking about spaghetti or we're talking about your career path for 40 years, It really comes down to some of the very similar roadblocks and desires and values and preferences, preferences that everyone has at their core. And that's what I help. And I'm passionate to bring out in people and encourage and support them to follow those truths that we uncover. I love that. Why is it that people have so much trouble deciding? Great question. Great question. And I can ask myself the same thing. the same thing too. and yes, what I've and again, maybe this is my, you know, biased pool of who is really attracted to my work, but with my clients, what I see For the most part is we're so infiltrated with information in this day and age that there's always advice. There's always another opinion. There's always an expert who knows more than us. At least perceived knows more than us and in most of our educational upbringings and how, what life has taught us, we were taught that. We should always look to someone else for advice and for feedback and for guidance. So, like I said, education, we were told the teacher has the answer and then our professor and then our boss has the answer and that's who we turn to. But even if we think of developmentally, so my background is in developmental psychology. When we're children, we have to look to others. We have to look to our parents because we don't know certain things yet. And I, I find that we never have this full on shift or it's, it's rare to have a full on shift from, okay, I am not a child anymore. I'm not in this bubble where I have to ask the advice of my professor, cuz they're the ones giving me this grade. Instead I am living my own life. I've created, I've gotten to this point and now it's fully 100% up to me. And that doesn't mean I stop looking for advice or, or research or data, but it means that once we look at that advice, research, data, opinions, we filter it back through our own opinions, values, desires, goals, our own authentic lens is what I call it. So, I think it's, it's just our upbringing and it's also developmentally how we form as humans. And there's not a really natural shift point for us to have that realization of, oh, I don't, I don't have to seek out anymore. I can actually go in. Yeah. You know, I've, I've been working with a client who's been going through the same thing in that she is always, you know, listening to other people and, and, and getting advice. And she, you know, and she'll go to videos and she reads books and things, and, and I'm working with her really to start, to help her to start trusting her own intuition. And, and because I think that's it, that's it, we don't put enough value on that and on our own innate knowing. So is that something that you, you know, when you're working with clients kind of help them to do, to help them see that Really a lot of the times they actually have the answers either they have the answers themselves, or they can trust that once they gathered enough information, they have enough information to make a decision. Yes. Yeah. Yes. So when you first started talking about like innate knowing in that, intuition, I, I personally love that stuff and I, I follow Abraham Hicks and I follow a lot of, a lot of that work and also recognize that some clients who come into this work are not at a place yet where that feels safe to make decisions. Right. So I'm really glad you added on that other perspective too. Or they realize they have enough information to make an informed enough decision. That's why my book is called ready enough. You're ready enough to make that decision. And, I think that's another point of us having so much information at our fingertips. There's always going to be more information you can gather. So it's not about have you gathered all of the information it’s have you gathered enough of the information and for some of us that looks very logical, very analytical, very like data research oriented. And for some of us that looks very much like intuition and just Meditating and tuning into what our heart is telling us. For my clients and, and my stance has this good blend between the research side and the intuition. So finding that middle ground where we can use both. Yeah. I like that. And, and,...