A Grief Counsellor's Personal and Professional Reflections on Grief and Loss

Have you ever wondered what to say to someone who’s grieving? Or felt unsure about how to handle your own grief? In this episode, I chat with Bryan Petheram, a counsellor and group facilitator from Griefline, about the complexities of grief and how we can better support ourselves and others through loss.Bryan shares his journey from being a police officer to becoming a grief counsellor, offering unique insights into how our understanding of grief has evolved. We discuss the importance of acknowledging loss, the power of language in grief, and why it’s crucial to avoid platitudes like “at least…” when comforting someone who’s grieving. Bryan emphasises that there’s no “right” way to grieve and explains how grief can change as we age and experience different losses.We also delve into the practical aspects of grief support, including when it might be time to seek professional help and the various services Griefline offers. Whether you’re supporting a grieving friend or navigating your own loss, this episode provides valuable insights and strategies for dealing with grief in a healthy, compassionate way.Key points from the episode:The evolution of grief understanding: from stages to a non-linear processThe importance of acknowledging loss and using clear language about deathWhy saying “I’m sorry for your loss” might not be the best approachHow to support someone who’s grieving: be present, not perfectWhen and why to seek professional help for griefThe various support services offered by GrieflineResources mentioned:Griefline website: griefline.org.auGriefline helpline: Available 8am to 8pm every day of the yearLet's Talk About Grief! campaign: https://griefline.org.au/2024-grief-awareness-campaign/Let’s Talk About Greif Fundraising event https://griefline.org.au/lets-talk-about-grief-fundraising-event/E-book: “How to Support a Grieving Friend” by Sal and Im (Good Mourning podcast)Good Mourning podcastRemember; You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.Take care,CatherineWe'd love to hear from you. Send us a text :-)Death is hard, make death admin easy with the Critical Info Platform. It’s a simple, secure system that helps you prepare and share your legacy, wishes and personal paperwork.It’s packed with prompts, guides and even a To Do List to help you easily gather critical information for a complete end-of-life plan.Leave behind a legacy, not a mess.Sign up now to your free trial at critical info.com.auNo credit card needed. Every Tuesday at 7pm, I host Critical Chat Tuesdays — free, online conversations where you can ask questions or just listen.No pressure. No expectation.Because this isn’t about planning for “someday” — it’s about being ready for whatever life throws your way.Join anytime at criticalinfo.com.au/events MY LOVED ONE HAS DIED, WHAT DO I DO NOW?Our guide, ‘My Loved One Has Died, What Do I Do Now?’ provides practical steps for the hours and days after a loved one's death. Download it here.SUPPORT SERVICESIf you're feeling overwhelmed by grief, find support through our resources and bereavement services here.Support the showSupport the 'Don’t Be Caught Dead' podcast with a one-off or regular donation to help Critical Info, a certified social enterprise, keep creating free, high-impact conversations about death, grief and planning—every contribution fuels our mission to reduce the burden on families and build a more death-literate, compassionate community. Donate here now.Learn more: https://criticalinfo.com.au/Connect with Don't Be Caught Dead podcast host Catherine Ashton & Critical info on socials:https://linktr.ee/catherine_critical_info?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&ltsid=c1879300-84db-4c70-9270-18d17d3ec22aMusic composer: Ania Reynolds - https://www.aniareynolds.com/