A Man's Guide To Ending Fearful-Avoidant Attachment

Talking points: attachment, psychology, mindset, relationshipsAlright team, this is one of the biggest guides yet! There were a TON of requests to cover this one, so I happily obliged. This attachment style is also called "disorganized attachment", and I've worked with a ton of men who have it. So let's dig in on what fearful-avoidant attachment is, how it affects relationships, and how to move back towards something more secure, authentic, and thriving with easy, deliberate steps.(00:00:00) - Intro and defining fearful-avoidant attachment, and how conflicting it can feel(00:08:20) - Where this attachment style starts, and what makes it different from anxious and avoidant(00:13:19) - What does fearful-avoidant look like in a relationship? (00:15:38) - What builds a fearful-avoidant style? Neglect and/or inconsistency(00:23:33) - One of the most important (and unspoken) needs of a child(00:28:19) - Parentification, one of the most common causes of fearful-avoidant attachment (00:33:37) - More on what this looks like in a relationship: control, distrust, (00:35:57) - Wanting closeness but fearing closeness, difficulty regulating emotions, and negativity(00:38:24) - On being disappointed by others, protection from rejection, and concentration (00:40:02) - The big one: inability to self-soothe(00:41:40) - So what do we do? Two BIG steps(00:45:24) - On how to self-regulate/self-soothe, and starting with the breath(00:50:20) - Find someone to help you work with your hypervigilance(00:53:07) - Develop consistent connection with your partner (or with friends). Here’s how(00:56:53) - Build trust. Slowly. Over time(00:59:46) - Set boundaries with the fear-based thoughts in your head***Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's WeekendPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices