A Mother's Journey Raising a Child with Mental Illness with Claudette Fette

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Texas-based Claudette Fette about raising her son Aaron through schizoaffective disorder, the complexities of finding proper support, and the painful realities of imperfect systems and desperate decisions. This frank, compassionate conversation explores multi-generational trauma, the struggle for diagnosis, and the human side of surviving—and learning from—the unexpected path of parenting a child with serious mental illness.About the Guest:Claudette Fette is an occupational therapist, university lecturer, and lived-experience mental health advocate based in North Texas. After decades spent navigating systems for her son Aaron, Claudette became committed to sharing their story and promoting evidence-based approaches in both family and school settings. She is co-author of "No Saints Here: A Cautionary Tale of Mental Health, Illness and the Cost of Ignorance in the Lone Star State," a memoir written with Aaron chronicling their struggles, lessons, and hope.Quote from the Episode:"Guilt is not as useful. So if it does something, if it helps motivate me to get Aaron's story out there and talk about things in public that I wouldn't otherwise want to have talked about, then it is useful. If it doesn't motivate something that helps, can you really afford it?" — Claudette FetteMain Topics Covered:Raising a child with schizoaffective disorder and multi-layered traumaHow lack of resources and inadequate systems lead families to extreme decisionsThe impact of early childhood adversity, school struggles, and misdiagnosisWhy behavioral approaches can be harmful when mistaken for mental illnessThe realities of abusive residential treatment programs and lost trustThe power of wraparound services, restorative justice, and strength-based modelsNavigating judgment, isolation, and the need for supportive family networksLessons for advocacy, compassion, and building mental health literacyTimestamps:[00:00:07] Welcome and Claudette’s home in North Texas[00:01:10] Holiday challenges for big families[00:02:07] Aaron’s story: early adversity, childhood hallucinations, and lack of parental readiness[00:06:01] Schizoaffective disorder diagnosis and unique challenges in school[00:16:31] Resource scarcity and "moving for specialized care"[00:17:20] Early behavioral challenges vs. underlying mental illness[00:25:04] Misdiagnosis and medical pathways: ADHD to acute residential care[00:31:51] Straight—abusive institutional “treatment” and the aftermath[00:35:16] Aaron living on the streets and “hopping trains”[00:41:23] Magical thinking: what would have helped[00:47:15] Isolation, judgment, and coping as a parent[00:50:49] Sharing Aaron and Claudette’s story through their book[00:58:35] Claudette’s personal life, entertainment, and ideal vacationSpecial Offer from the Guest:Claudette invites listeners to explore her and Aaron’s book, "No Saints Here," offering authentic, practical insight into family mental health. 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