A Novel That Rewrites Manliness

Send us Fan MailA man can look “fine” and still be standing on a ledge inside his own mind. That tension sits at the heart of our conversation with author Ulutumbi Ito about his novel My Mrs. Solomon: A Man’s Quest For True Manliness, and why storytelling may be one of the most effective ways to start honest men’s mental health conversations without shame or posturing. We talk about the quiet rules many boys learn early: don’t cry, don’t admit fear, don’t ask for help. Then we follow what those rules can cost over time, especially when abuse happens to boys and the only socially acceptable response is laughter or denial. From emotional silence to suicide risk, we name the patterns that keep men isolated, and we challenge the cultural “alpha male” mirage that insists everything must be perfect. The episode also digs into relationships and recovery. We explore how a supportive partner and a strong friend circle can create the safety a man needs to finally speak, and why many men struggle with emotional vocabulary in the first place. Faith and family show up too: we question what “safety” means, what parental accountability looks like, and how a fresh lens on Peter walking on water reframes courage as the willingness to ask for help. If you care about men’s mental health, healing from trauma, marriage under pressure, parenting with awareness, or building real support systems, press play and sit with us. Subscribe, share this with someone you love, and leave a review so more people can find these conversations.Get a copy here https://selar.com/mymrs Support the showFollow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kukuInstagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPeWebsite: https://blackhemages.com/b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being.#tdk