Abandoned, Devalued, Controlled: Naming the Wound That Runs Your Life — with JJ Flizanes

Why do we keep getting triggered by the same thing, over and over, no matter how much therapy or self-help we try? In this episode, Rose sits down with JJ Flizanes — transformational empowerment strategist, best-selling author, and creator of the Empowering Minds Network — to unpack the Core Wound Map, a framework built from Imago Relationship Therapy that identifies the top three wounds and beliefs quietly running your life. JJ and Rose talk about why talk therapy alone often isn't enough, how core wounds like abandonment, devaluation, and control show up in relationships and self-sabotage, the link between chronic pain and repressed emotion, how astrology can be used as a mirror for understanding yourself and the people you love, and why so many women stop themselves right at the edge of investing in their own transformation. This is a conversation about trading guesswork for a map — and finally understanding what you're actually trying to heal.In this episode:What a Core Wound Map is and why identifying your wounds comes before healing work, not afterThe five most common core wounds: abandonment, devalued, controlled, ignored, smotheredWhy anger is almost always a mask for sadness or fearThe difference between "what happened to me" and "what's happening for me" — and why that shift changes everythingHow chronic pain (like back pain) can be a signal of repressed emotion, not just a physical issueAstrology as a tool for understanding yourself and the people closest to youThe four limiting beliefs (from Gay Hendricks' The Big Leap) that keep women capping their own successWhy so many women won't invest in themselves — and what that reveals about self-worthJJ's Rewire program, Date Your Body, and Healing the Mother Wound retreatAbout JJ Flizanes: JJ Flizanes is a transformational empowerment strategist, best-selling author, and creator of the Empowering Minds Network. Drawing on Imago Relationship Therapy, astrology, and mindset work, she helps people identify and rewire the core wound patterns that keep them stuck — in relationships, in self-worth, and in their ability to receive success. Learn more at jjflizanes.com.Topics covered: Core wounds, Imago Relationship Therapy, self-sabotage, limiting beliefs, mindset shifts, astrology and self-understanding, manifestation, chronic pain and repressed emotion, self-worth, women in transition, Empress archetypeConnect with JJ Flizanes ✨ The deeper work lives on Substack and in my book.Rose Wippich — weekly essays on Remembering, Returning, and Reclaiming the energy, voice, and years that are yours.If you're ready to stop fading and start reigning, meet me there. Substack LinkRose Wippich is an Energy Alchemist, Reiki Master Teacher, qigong and yoga instructor, and author of Empress Rising. She's here for the woman who knows she's ready for something more — the one who feels the pull of her next chapter but isn't quite sure how to step into it.Through her book, podcast, and teaching, Rose inspires and guides women in midlife to reclaim their energy, identity, and voice — and step boldly into their Empress years.📖 Book: EMPRESS RISING: Own Your Energy, Trust Your Wisdom & Rewrite the Rules of Aging. If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend, subscribe to the podcast.Please review  ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ via Apple Review or Podchaser. Produced by Rose Wippich | Chat Off The Mat Podcast© 2026 Rose Wippich