Accountability is Awesome

-      The more accountability we take for our experience here – what happens to us, what we create, what we see as external or internal struggles – the more choices we have o  This is about ownership o  Ownership creates power and choice -      This isn’t about what you’re not o  Come from negative place o  Not strong enough o  Not smart enough o  Not disciplined enough o  That is all blame and fault finding o  Blame and fault finding are shame based o   -      Here’s the real difficulty, sometimes we judge ourselves for the things that we are taking accountability for o  Then we look to see how we can deflect that judgement o  When we beat our self up that often leads to deflecting which doesn’t feel good o  This goes wrong in the way that people/humans don’t like to be blamed or at fault so then we look to explain away the results in our life o  She didn’t meet my needs o  This just showed up on my screen o  There was a link in my feed o  That food wasn’t supposed to be in the pantry -      You try to deflect judgment -      In the process of deflecting judgement, you relinquish accountability. -      Here is one of the secrets that I want you to take away from this, You can be accountable without judging.  -      There are two words that you can eliminate from your vocabulary to help you do this. -      Should and Shouldn’t. -      You’re a human, you’re going to make mistakes -      Saying I should have done this or I shouldn’t have done that -      I should be more -      I shouldn’t be so bad -      I shouldn’t have slipped up -      Taking should and shouldn’t out of your vocabulary all together will help in this process of taking accountability without judgement. -      You aren’t perfect, I’m not perfect, no one is. -      Take accountability without taking blame. -      Let’s talk about areas where we can take accountability -      There are three areas -      Some call it the cognitive triangle – -      Brooke Castillo calls it the Model -      – most of us just know it as the things we have control over in our lives - -      Thoughts, feelings and actions -      Elder Uchtdorf had a great Instagram post where he was writing on a sheet of paper just a quick reminder, it seems -      I have control over my: Thoughts, Feelings, Actions. -      So, 3 questions: Why not always take accountability for these three things? -      How do I take back accountability for these three things? -      And why will that help me have greater self mastery? -      Let’s quick define Actions: o  Every one of my clients comes to me with one of two problems o  I’m doing but I can’t stop o  I want to start doing but I can’t § I’m using pornography and I can’t stop § I want to stop overeating § I want to get more things done § I want to stop sleeping in so I can get my exercise in -      This is all stuff we do or don’t...