Accountability is Awesome

-      The more accountability we take for our experience here – what happens to us, what we create, what we see as external or internal struggles – the more choices we haveo  This is about ownershipo  Ownership creates power and choice-      This isn’t about what you’re noto  Come from negative placeo  Not strong enougho  Not smart enougho  Not disciplined enougho  That is all blame and fault findingo  Blame and fault finding are shame basedo  -      Here’s the real difficulty, sometimes we judge ourselves for the things that we are taking accountability foro  Then we look to see how we can deflect that judgemento  When we beat our self up that often leads to deflecting which doesn’t feel goodo  This goes wrong in the way that people/humans don’t like to be blamed or at fault so then we look to explain away the results in our lifeo  She didn’t meet my needso  This just showed up on my screeno  There was a link in my feedo  That food wasn’t supposed to be in the pantry-      You try to deflect judgment-      In the process of deflecting judgement, you relinquish accountability.-      Here is one of the secrets that I want you to take away from this, You can be accountable without judging. -      There are two words that you can eliminate from your vocabulary to help you do this.-      Should and Shouldn’t.-      You’re a human, you’re going to make mistakes-      Saying I should have done this or I shouldn’t have done that-      I should be more-      I shouldn’t be so bad-      I shouldn’t have slipped up-      Taking should and shouldn’t out of your vocabulary all together will help in this process of taking accountability without judgement.-      You aren’t perfect, I’m not perfect, no one is.-      Take accountability without taking blame.-      Let’s talk about areas where we can take accountability-      There are three areas-      Some call it the cognitive triangle –-      Brooke Castillo calls it the Model-      – most of us just know it as the things we have control over in our lives --      Thoughts, feelings and actions-      Elder Uchtdorf had a great Instagram post where he was writing on a sheet of paper just a quick reminder, it seems-      I have control over my: Thoughts, Feelings, Actions.-      So, 3 questions: Why not always take accountability for these three things?-      How do I take back accountability for these three things?-      And why will that help me have greater self mastery?-      Let’s quick define Actions:o  Every one of my clients comes to me with one of two problemso  I’m doing but I can’t stopo  I want to start doing but I can’t§ I’m using