ADHD, $40K Debt, & The Homie With The Hookup

You're stressed. Your brain is lying to you. And your calendar system is either saving your life or just another app you forgot to check because Instagram got there first.This week Matthew and Jacob get into how time keeps accelerating, why ADHD hits different in your 30s, and the actual tactics they use to manage stress and anxiety before it manages them. Jacob breaks down his physical calendar system, his panic attack at a movie theater, and the $35-40K in debt he was drowning in alone, and what telling his mom finally did for him. Matthew gets real about a breakdown in his kitchen on a Wednesday, picking tennis back up after four years, and why walking 10,000 steps at work isn't the same as actually getting your heart rate up.There's also a conversation about doctors you can trust vs. doctors who just take your money, the placebo effect, social media's role in rewiring your brain, and the first ever listener review of Talking Trubbish.OUR DISCORD IS LIVE!!! WE GOT AN ALBUM ON Apple Music & Spotify NOW!!!Subscribe to our Youtube @TalkingTrubbishEmail us your stories or [email protected]:00–01:10 Intro / how fast 2026 is moving01:10–04:55 Jacob's physical wall calendar system and the discipline behind it04:55–07:10 Phone calendars, app rabbit holes, and ADHD-fueled distraction07:10–09:30 Learning styles, finding your own system, and government red tape09:30–11:20 Apple's reminder app rant and what a better notification system would look like11:20–13:40 Matthew getting officially diagnosed for ADHD, why it gets worse at 3013:40–16:50 Kids don't care about labels, how society plants seeds in your head16:50–19:00 Facebook and YouTube lawsuit: platforms designed to addict children19:00–22:10 How social media accentuates ADHD without causing it22:10–25:25 The placebo effect explained, including the non-alcoholic beer experiment25:25–27:00 WebMD-ing yourself into a spiral, finding doctors you can actually trust27:00–30:50 Window shopping for therapists, you're allowed to leave30:50–32:55 Jacob's sour candy anxiety trick and outdoor walks without headphones32:55–38:00 Matthew's week: stress at an 11, crying in the kitchen, picking up tennis38:00–41:50 Physical exertion as mental reset, how exercise helps you see problems clearly41:50–45:00 Distraction as anxiety management, different techniques for different brains45:00–45:55 Brief transparency note about returning topics45:55–47:50 First ever Talking Trubbish listener review, Lemmy Rio, five stars47:50–52:15 Jacob's debt story: $35-40K, secret anxiety attack, telling his mom52:15–55:56 Final thoughts on talking to someone you trust, stress triggers (shopping, overeating), and closing Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.