ADHD in Motherhood: The Shame, the Chaos & Finding Your Way Back to Yourself

Do you ever feel like you're constantly dropping the ball, losing yourself in the chaos of motherhood, or just can't seem to keep up — no matter how hard you try? It might not just be motherhood. In this episode, originally aired as part of our 2024 Maternal Mental Health series, I'm joined by Emma, founder of ADHD Potential, a mother and ADHD coach who knows this reality from the inside out.We talk about what ADHD actually looks like in mothers — because it doesn't always look the way you'd expect — the shame spiral that so many women carry silently, emotional dysregulation, executive dysfunction, and the strategies that can genuinely help. We also talk about why so many women go undiagnosed for years, and what to do if you suspect ADHD but don't know where to start.If you're based in the Netherlands, we cover how the referral process works and what to expect, including waiting times and insurance coverage.This episode is part of Damn Parenting's Maternal Mental Health Month series — bringing honest, real conversations about the things that affect us as mothers, the ones we don't always get to say out loud.In this episode:What ADHD in motherhood really looks likeWhy so many women are diagnosed late — or not at allThe shame and guilt that comes with it, and how to work through itPractical strategies for managing ADHD as a motherHow to get diagnosed in the NetherlandsWhy "good enough" parenting is not only okay — it's necessary