Adult Entertainers, Mature Women & The Myth About Who Society Says Isn’t “Relationship Material”

Send us Fan MailToday I sit down with Nikole Mitchell and Mellanie Monroe for one of the rawest conversations yet about love, sex work, aging, relationships, self-worth, and the double standards women face every day.Nikole opens up about going viral as the “pastor turned stripper,” leaving behind religion and shame to fully embrace her sexuality, freedom, and identity. Mellanie reflects on nearly two decades in the adult industry, falling in and out of love, taking breaks from the business, and learning the hard way that compromising herself for relationships always led to resentment.Together, they unpack the stigma surrounding adult entertainers and mature women, from being desired privately but judged publicly, to the reality of dating while working in the adult industry. The conversation explores jealousy, honesty, emotional maturity, age-gap relationships, and the difference between real intimacy and transactional sex.They also discuss:• Why many men secretly admire adult entertainers but publicly shame them• The emotional labor and communication required in healthy relationships• Dating younger vs older partners• Why adult entertainers are often safer and more communicative than civilians• How society links sex work with infidelity• The truth about aging, desirability, and confidence• Why sex workers are often portrayed as “damaged” in media• Learning to stop apologizing for who you are• Falling in love with yourself first before seeking validation from othersThis episode is funny, emotional, vulnerable, empowering, and deeply honest. Whether you agree with every perspective or not, this conversation challenges stereotypes and opens the door to a more human understanding of sexuality, relationships, aging, and identity.⏱ CHAPTERS:00:00 – Intro00:46 – Meeting Nikole Mitchell & Mellanie Monroe02:49 – Mellanie’s 17-year journey in the adult industry03:25 – Nikole Mitchell: pastor turned stripper04:41 – Being desired privately but judged publicly07:24 – What a truly supportive partner looks like10:21 – Relationships, compromise & jealousy12:11 – Falling in love and leaving the industry16:00 – Navigating boundaries in open relationships18:45 – Misconceptions about adult entertainers20:59 – STI stigma & sexual health myths22:54 – What men are really afraid of25:01 – Adult entertainment vs infidelity29:22 – Aging, desirability & female worth35:09 – Dating older and younger partners37:16 – Why sex workers are portrayed as damaged41:57 – Sex work, healing & sexuality45:28 – Media stereotypes & social stigma47:31 – Using social media to change the narrative49:45 – Healthy vs unhealthy age-gap relationships52:59 – Learning to love yourself56:25 – Ava Devine’s Bad Advice takeawayFollow the guests:Nikole MitchellInstagram: @mitchellnikoleTikTok: @mitchellnikoleMellanie MonroeInstagram: @mellaniemonroereelsX/Twitter: @mellaniemonroe7Follow Ava Devine's Bad AdviceInstagram: @avadevinesbadadviceX/Twitter: @avadevinespodResourcesStudio: Level 9 StudiosMakeup: Sanaya Beauty / @sanaya_mua (IG)#AvaDevinesBadAdvice #NikoleMitchell #MellanieMonroe #AdultIndustry #Relationships #Dating #SelfLove #AgeGapRelationships #Sexuality #WomenEmpowerment #Podcast #avadevine