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Send us Fan MailFor more than 25 years, Sara Jay has remained one of the most recognizable names in the adult entertainment industry. While thousands of performers have come and gone, she built a career that has stood the test of time by embracing authenticity, adapting to change, and turning herself into a global brand.In this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with adult industry legend Sara Jay to talk about longevity, success, psychology, entrepreneurship, confidence, body image, relationships, and how the internet completely transformed the adult entertainment business.Sara shares how studying psychology shaped the way she approached relationships and her career, why she never tried to fit the industry's traditional beauty standards, and how confidence, enthusiasm, and authenticity helped her build one of the longest-running careers in adult entertainment. We also discuss the evolution of the MILF genre, the rise of independent creators, directing, producing, mentoring new performers, building businesses outside the industry, and why lasting success is about far more than appearance.Whether you're curious about the adult entertainment industry, building a long-term career, entrepreneurship, confidence, or personal growth, this conversation is full of honest insights from someone who has successfully reinvented herself for over two decades.In this episode, we discuss:• How Sara Jay built a 25-year career in adult entertainment• Why authenticity beats beauty in any career• The psychology behind attraction and relationships• How the internet changed the adult industry forever• Why the MILF genre became one of the biggest categories online• Confidence, body image, and embracing curves• Why chemistry matters more than appearance• Directing, producing, and mentoring new performers• Building businesses beyond performing• Entrepreneurship, branding, and career longevity• The biggest mistakes new performers make• Aging confidently and redefining beauty after 40Chapters00:00 Meet Adult Industry Legend Sara Jay00:00:57 From Psychology Student to Adult Superstar00:02:42 Building A Career Before The Internet Changed Everything00:05:22 How Curvy Women Changed Beauty Standards00:09:13 How Psychology Helped Sara Jay Separate Work & Relationships00:11:51 Why Las Vegas Changed Her Life00:14:27 Why The MILF Genre Exploded In Popularity00:17:09 The Fantasy Behind Age Gap Relationships00:17:59 Why Chemistry Matters More Than Looks00:21:20 Who Watches Sara Jay Today?00:22:56 Aging, Confidence & Beauty After 5000:28:19 How The Adult Industry Changed Since 200000:30:39 The Secret To Staying Relevant For 25 Years00:32:47 Mentoring The Next Generation00:33:35 The Biggest Business Lesson Sara Jay Ever Learned00:34:34 From Performer To Producer & Entrepreneur00:37:05 Why Sara Jay Started A CBD Company00:38:45 What Happens When Performers Have No Chemistry?00:41:04 Sara Jay's Life Today00:43:31 Final Advice & Closing ThoughtsFollow Ava DevineInstagram: @theoneandonlyavadevineTikTok: @1avadevineFollow Ava Devine's Bad Advice PodcastInstagram: @avadevinesbadadviceTikTok: @avadevinesbadadviceX: @avadevinespodFollow Sara JayX: @sarajay & @sarajaycbdCBD Wellness: BareSelfCare.com

Send us Fan MailMillions of people are told they're lazy, lack willpower, or simply need to "eat less and move more." But according to bariatric surgeon Dr. Bernie Hanna, the science tells a very different story.In this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with my longtime friend and one of Las Vegas' leading bariatric surgeons, Dr. Bernie Hanna, to unpack one of the biggest health crises in America: obesity.We discuss the science behind obesity, genetics, food addiction, processed foods, bariatric surgery, Ozempic, GLP-1 medications, Tirzepatide, Retatrutide, mental health, body positivity, and why traditional weight loss advice often fails.Dr. Hanna explains why obesity is far more complex than personal responsibility, how hormones, genetics, environment, and ultra-processed foods influence weight, and why treating obesity with compassion, not shame, is critical to improving long-term health.Whether you're considering Ozempic, bariatric surgery, struggling with food noise, or simply trying to understand why losing weight feels impossible, this conversation offers practical advice backed by over 20 years of medical experience.In this episode, we discuss:• Why obesity is not simply about willpower• The truth about Ozempic, GLP-1 medications and Tirzepatide• How bariatric surgery actually works• Why processed foods keep you hungry• Food addiction and "food noise"• Genetics vs environment in obesity• Weight stigma and mental health• Muscle loss while taking GLP-1 medications• Functional training vs endless cardio• Insurance coverage for weight loss surgery• Whether Ozempic is worth taking for cosmetic weight loss• How to choose between medication and bariatric surgery• Long-term weight loss strategies that actually work⏱ CHAPTERS00:00 Why Obesity Is One Of America's Biggest Health Crises00:01:57 Meet Bariatric Surgeon Dr. Bernie Hanna00:02:54 Genetics vs Environment: What Really Causes Obesity?00:06:32 Is Sugar Actually Addictive?00:10:32 The Biggest Challenge People With Obesity Face00:12:21 Why "Just Eat Less" Doesn't Work00:17:31 Ozempic, GLP-1 Medications & The Future Of Weight Loss00:22:20 When Should Someone Consider Bariatric Surgery?00:24:05 Gastric Sleeve vs Gastric Bypass Explained00:25:51 Why Muscle Training Matters During Weight Loss00:26:43 Cardio vs Weight Training: Which Is Better?00:29:08 What Is Functional Fitness?00:31:40 How Doctors Decide Which Weight Loss Surgery You Need00:33:25 Does Insurance Cover Bariatric Surgery?00:36:23 Why Mental Health Is Essential For Weight Loss Success00:39:48 Why Some People Travel Overseas For Bariatric Surgery00:41:32 Can Bariatric Surgery Stop Food Noise?00:43:33 Ozempic vs Bariatric Surgery: Which Should You Choose?00:46:59 Childhood Trauma, Obesity & Emotional Eating00:51:39 Is Ozempic Worth It For Cosmetic Weight Loss?00:54:47 Dr. Bernie Hanna's Final Advice For Long-Term HealthIf this episode helped you better understand obesity, weight loss, Ozempic, or bariatric surgery, don't forget to like, subscribe, and leave a comment below. Conversations like these help reduce stigma and empower people to make informed decisions about their health.Follow Ava DevineInstagram: @theoneandonlyavadevineTikTok: @1avadevineFollow Ava Devine's Bad Advice PodcastInstagram: @avadevinesbadadviceTikTok: @avadevinesbadadviceX: @avadevinespodFollow Dr. Bernie HannaYouTube:  ⁨@lasvegasbariatrics⁩  Instagram: @berniehannamdX (Twitter): @lvbariatricsSubmit your questions for the [email protected]

Send us Fan MailFor years, Pearadise was promoted as a body-positive sanctuary where plus-size women could feel beautiful, desired, accepted, and finally seen. But behind the bikinis, social media videos, and messages of empowerment, many former residents have described something much more complicated.In this episode of Ava Devine’s Bad Advice, I sit down with plus-size performer, director, and creator Big Big Cherry to talk about body positivity, BBW representation, self-worth, adult entertainment, feederism, consent, community, and the darker side of what happens when belonging becomes conditional.Big Big Cherry opens up about her own journey as a plus-size woman in the adult industry, how representation helped her build confidence, and why seeing other women who looked like her changed the way she viewed her own body. We talk about BBW performers, plus-size sex appeal, body confidence, fetishization, and the difference between being desired privately versus being respected publicly.We also discuss her experience with Pearadise, the community that many women were drawn to after years of feeling isolated or unseen. Cherry shares what originally attracted her to the space, the friendships she built there, the red flags she noticed, and how the promise of acceptance can sometimes make people overlook uncomfortable dynamics.This conversation explores the fine line between body positivity and exploitation, especially when it comes to feederism, consent, social media attention, adult content, and vulnerable people searching for community. We also talk about her late friend Kass, the importance of speaking up, and why finding your own trusted circle matters more than belonging to a space that asks you to compromise yourself.This episode is about plus-size women, BBW empowerment, adult entertainment, self-worth, consent, friendship, grief, and the human need to be accepted without being exploited.So get cozy if you’re watching from home and turn up the volume if you’re listening. This is Ava Devine’s Bad Advice.What We Discuss:00:00 Intro: Paradise, Body Positivity & Exploitation01:54 Meet Big Big Cherry02:42 Building Confidence as a Plus Size Woman04:19 From Photographer to Adult Performer06:39 Weight Loss, Body Changes & Fan Reactions07:19 Plus Size Women, Sex Appeal & Objectification10:08 Empowerment in Adult Entertainment11:39 Recognition, Niches & BBW Representation13:08 Misconceptions About Plus Size Performers14:01 What Drew Cherry to Paradise16:17 Adult Entertainment & the Paradise Community20:43 First Impressions of Stefan21:28 Consent, Touching & Fetish Boundaries22:55 Feeling Empowered by the Women in Paradise24:20 Red Flags, Control & Speaking Up25:06 Loyalty Tests Inside the Community27:06 Setting Boundaries Around Being Filmed28:36 How Paradise Affected Her Friendship with Cass32:17 Speaking Up for Women Who Couldn’t33:02 When the Illusion of Paradise Broke34:27 Why Women Continued Joining Paradise35:58 Social Media, Clout & Content House Culture37:23 What Is Feederism?38:07 Feederism, Food, Fetish Content & Consent39:41 The 700-Pound Scale in the Living Room41:54 Fetish Shame, Disclosure & Safety42:40 When Feederism Becomes Dangerous47:06 Remembering Cass50:02 Staying Connected With the Women50:48 What Cherry Learned From Paradise51:36 What Big Big Cherry Is Doing Now52:21 Where to Find Big Big Cherry53:11 Final Bad Advice: Self-Worth, Community & Speaking UpIf there is one thing to take away from this episode, it’s this: community should never require you to silence yourself, ignore your boundaries, or compromise your self-worth. Real empowerment is not about being used for someone else’s fantasy or platform. It is about knowing who you are, speaking up when something feels wrong, and building a trusted circle where you are loved without conditions.Follow Ava DevineInstagram: @theoneandonlyavadevineTikTok: @1avadevineFollow Ava Devine's Bad Advice PodcastInstagram: @avadevinesbadadviceTikTok: @avadevinesbadadviceX: @avadevinespodFollow Big Big CherryInstagram: @thebigbigcherrySubmit your questions for the [email protected]

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with two of the adult industry's most respected transgender performers to talk about friendship, dating, relationships, fame, identity, burnout, business, and what life is really like beyond the camera.Emma Rose and Eva Maxim open up about how they first met, fell in love, stayed close friends after their relationship ended, and why mutual respect has always come before ego. They share candid stories about navigating relationships as trans women, dealing with dating stereotypes, setting healthy boundaries, balancing public personas with private lives, and protecting their mental health in an industry that often expects performers to be "on" 24/7.The conversation also explores misconceptions surrounding transgender women, the difference between genuine attraction and fetishization, mentorship within the industry, representation in media, cosmetic surgery, gender-affirming care, financial independence, and why authenticity is the key to long-term success.Of course, no episode of Bad Advice would be complete without fan questions, hilarious dating stories, unexpected confessions, and plenty of laughs along the way.Whether you're interested in relationships, LGBTQ+ conversations, personal growth, or simply hearing two incredibly successful women tell their stories with honesty and humor, this is an episode you won't want to miss.⏱ CHAPTERS00:00 – Introduction & Meet Emma Rose and Eva Maxim02:47 – How They Met and Became Friends04:21 – Dating Each Other in the Public Eye07:43 – Dating as Trans Women08:37 – Chasers vs. Genuine Attraction10:06 – Attraction, Fetishization & Boundaries11:52 – Dating Inside vs. Outside the Industry12:43 – Work-Life Balance & Burnout16:28 – Separating the Performer from the Person18:15 – Understanding Trans Attraction19:53 – Relationships, Independence & Personal Standards21:29 – Mentorship, Career Growth & Business Advice24:10 – Helping the Next Generation of Performers26:50 – Representation & Industry Challenges30:24 – Misconceptions About Trans Women33:29 – Questions They're Tired of Hearing36:15 – Media Representation & Visibility37:49 – The Meaning Behind "The Dolls"38:38 – Cosmetic Surgery, Body Image & Self-Acceptance41:38 – Gender-Affirming Surgery & Personal Choices46:20 – Fan Questions: Dating, Attraction & Relationships53:03 – Biggest Turn-Offs54:39 – Guilty Pleasures & Favorite Shows55:30 – Romance, Love Languages & Friendship58:13 – Favorite Memories Together59:57 – Final Advice & Closing ThoughtsFollow Ava DevineInstagram: @theoneandonlyavadevineTikTok: @1avadevineFollow Ava Devine's Bad Advice PodcastInstagram: @avadevinesbadadviceTikTok: @avadevinesbadadviceX: @avadevinespodFollow Emma RoseInstagram: @ohitsemmaroseFollow Eva MaximInstagram: @devils_maximSubmit your questions for the [email protected]#AvaDevine #BadAdvicePodcast #EmmaRose #EvaMaxim #TransWomen #LGBTQ #Podcast #Relationships #Dating #Friendship #MentalHealth #AdultIndustry #Representation #SelfAcceptance #PersonalGrowth

Send us Fan MailWhat happens when adult entertainment is created through a feminist, queer, and pleasure-centred lens instead of the male gaze?This week on Ava Devine’s Bad Advice, I sit down with Dahlia Von Knight, owner of Sinners Vault VR and co-founder of Queer Crush, two queer-inclusive adult entertainment platforms focused on ethical, authentic, and pleasure-driven erotic content.We explore how mainstream erotica shapes expectations around sex, intimacy, consent, and connection, often prioritizing performance over genuine human experience. Dahlia breaks down why feminist and queer erotica takes a different approach by centring communication, mutual pleasure, representation, and realism.We discuss the importance of foreplay, consent behind the scenes, why many viewers are seeking alternatives to traditional adult content, and how queer creators are challenging long-held assumptions about what sex is supposed to look like. We also talk about representation, inclusivity, body diversity, and why authentic intimacy can be far more powerful than fantasy alone.This conversation isn't just about adult entertainment. It's about pleasure, connection, consent, and expanding the way we think about sexuality.So get cozy if you're watching from home and turn up the volume if you're listening—this is Ava Devine’s Bad Advice.In This Episode:• Feminist and queer erotica• The male gaze in adult entertainment• Why foreplay and intimacy matter• Consent and performer safety behind the scenes• Sinners Vault VR & Queer Crush• Female and queer pleasure• Representation and inclusivity in adult content• The psychology of intimacy and connection• Body diversity and authentic sexuality• Fan Questions & Bad AdviceFollow Ava DevineInstagram: @theoneandonlyavadevineTikTok: @1avadevineFollow Ava Devine's Bad Advice PodcastInstagram: @avadevinesbadadviceTikTok: @avadevinesbadadviceX: @avadevinespodFollow Dahlia Von KnightInstagram: @dvknightSubmit your questions for the [email protected]

Send us Fan MailWhat kind of society are we creating when cruelty becomes entertainment?This week on Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with therapist Ryan Wynder to unpack a question that emerged after I became the target of public online ridicule, body shaming, and harassment: Why do some people build audiences by mocking, humiliating, and degrading others?Together, we explore the psychology behind bullying, public humiliation, and internet outrage culture. Ryan breaks down concepts like dehumanization, projection, group validation, cognitive distortions, and the emotional rewards people receive from putting others down. We discuss why cruelty is often disguised as humor, how social media amplifies toxic behavior, and why online attacks can have real consequences for the people on the receiving end.We also examine body shaming, promiscuity shaming, ageism, LGBTQ+ discrimination, toxic masculinity, parasocial relationships, and the double standards that continue to shape public conversations about women, sexuality, and adult entertainment.Most importantly, this episode is about remembering that behind every profile, every headline, and every viral clip is a real human being with feelings, experiences, and dignity.So get cozy if you're watching from home and turn up the volume if you're listening. This is Ava Devine's Bad Advice.Topics Covered:• The psychology of online bullying• Public humiliation and body shaming• Why cruelty gets disguised as comedy• Dehumanization and internet culture• Projection, insecurity, and group validation• Toxic masculinity and outrage content• Promiscuity shaming and double standards• LGBTQ+ discrimination and social stigma• Social media, anonymity, and trolling• Coping with online harassment• Trauma, resilience, and self-worth• Why every person deserves dignityFollow Ava DevineInstagram: @theoneandonlyavadevineTikTok: @1avadevineFollow Ava Devine's Bad Advice PodcastInstagram: @avadevinesbadadviceTikTok: @avadevinesbadadviceX: @avadevinespodFollow Ryan WynderInstagram: @thevegastherapistSubmit your questions for the [email protected]

Send us Fan MailThis week, I go solo to address the recent online attacks directed at me from comedians, podcasts, and strangers who seem to think body shaming, age shaming, and promiscuity shaming qualify as entertainment.But this episode isn't about being offended by jokes. It's about drawing a line between comedy and cruelty and standing up for the people who do not have the platform or thick skin to defend themselves.I discuss the hypocrisy of people who claim certain topics are off limits while freely mocking appearance, age, sexuality, adult entertainers, LGBTQ+ people, and anyone they believe society will defend the least. We talk about the real consequences of online bullying, why cruelty doesn't become harmless just because it's packaged as a joke, and how public humiliation affects not only the target but entire communities.This conversation also explores society's obsession with aging women, cosmetic surgery, body count culture, and the double standards that continue to shape how women are judged for their bodies, sexuality, and profession.Most importantly, this episode is for anyone who has ever been made to feel disposable because of their age, body, identity, profession, sexuality, or past.You are not the joke.So get cozy if you're watching from home and turn up the volume if you're listening. This is Ava Devine's Bad Advice.Topics Covered:• Online bullying and public humiliation• Comedy vs. cruelty• Body shaming and age shaming• Promiscuity shaming and stigma• Adult entertainers and public perception• LGBTQ+ stereotypes and discrimination• The impact of social media harassment• Self-worth, resilience, and standing up for yourself• Why kindness still matters#AvaDevinesBadAdvice #BodyPositivity #AntiBullying #Ageism #WomenEmpowerment #LGBTQ #AdultEntertainment #MentalHealth #SelfWorth #OnlineHarassment

Send us Fan MailAdult Entertainers are some of the most desired people in society, yet when it comes to their safety, healthcare, legal protection, and dignity, they are often treated as disposable.In this episode of Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with therapist and SWAID Collective co-founder Summer Hart to explore the realities that adult entertainers face beyond stereotypes and stigma.We talk about discrimination in healthcare and society, the psychological impact of shame, and why community-led organizations like SWAID are providing emergency aid, harm reduction resources, and survival support where larger systems continue to fail.Summer shares the story behind SWAID, an adult entertainer-led organization providing emergency financial assistance, reproductive healthcare resources, harm reduction supplies, and crisis support for performers and adult entertainers across the country. We also explore the difference between morality and human rights, why empathy is often made conditional, and what a world that truly protects sex workers could look like.So get cozy if you're watching from home and turn up the volume if you're listening. This is Ava Devine's Bad Advice.Topics Covered:• What SWAID is and why it was created• The safety risks sex workers face• Healthcare discrimination and social stigma• Harm reduction and emergency aid• Why sex worker-led organizations matter• Human rights vs. morality debates• Fan questions• The future of sex worker advocacy and supportFollow the guests:Summer HartInstagram: @ohheysummerhartTikTok: @summerhartxxxSWAID CollectiveInstagram: @swaidcollectiveX/Twitter: @swaidvegasYouTube:  @SWAIDCollective  Follow Ava Devine's Bad AdviceInstagram: @avadevinesbadadviceX/Twitter: @avadevinespodTikTok: @avadevinesbadadviceResourcesStudio: Level 9 StudiosMakeup: Sanaya Beauty / @sanaya_mua (IG)Submit your questions for the [email protected]

Send us Fan MailToday I sit down with Nikole Mitchell and Mellanie Monroe for one of the rawest conversations yet about love, sex work, aging, relationships, self-worth, and the double standards women face every day.Nikole opens up about going viral as the “pastor turned stripper,” leaving behind religion and shame to fully embrace her sexuality, freedom, and identity. Mellanie reflects on nearly two decades in the adult industry, falling in and out of love, taking breaks from the business, and learning the hard way that compromising herself for relationships always led to resentment.Together, they unpack the stigma surrounding adult entertainers and mature women, from being desired privately but judged publicly, to the reality of dating while working in the adult industry. The conversation explores jealousy, honesty, emotional maturity, age-gap relationships, and the difference between real intimacy and transactional sex.They also discuss:• Why many men secretly admire adult entertainers but publicly shame them• The emotional labor and communication required in healthy relationships• Dating younger vs older partners• Why adult entertainers are often safer and more communicative than civilians• How society links sex work with infidelity• The truth about aging, desirability, and confidence• Why sex workers are often portrayed as “damaged” in media• Learning to stop apologizing for who you are• Falling in love with yourself first before seeking validation from othersThis episode is funny, emotional, vulnerable, empowering, and deeply honest. Whether you agree with every perspective or not, this conversation challenges stereotypes and opens the door to a more human understanding of sexuality, relationships, aging, and identity.⏱ CHAPTERS:00:00 – Intro00:46 – Meeting Nikole Mitchell & Mellanie Monroe02:49 – Mellanie’s 17-year journey in the adult industry03:25 – Nikole Mitchell: pastor turned stripper04:41 – Being desired privately but judged publicly07:24 – What a truly supportive partner looks like10:21 – Relationships, compromise & jealousy12:11 – Falling in love and leaving the industry16:00 – Navigating boundaries in open relationships18:45 – Misconceptions about adult entertainers20:59 – STI stigma & sexual health myths22:54 – What men are really afraid of25:01 – Adult entertainment vs infidelity29:22 – Aging, desirability & female worth35:09 – Dating older and younger partners37:16 – Why sex workers are portrayed as damaged41:57 – Sex work, healing & sexuality45:28 – Media stereotypes & social stigma47:31 – Using social media to change the narrative49:45 – Healthy vs unhealthy age-gap relationships52:59 – Learning to love yourself56:25 – Ava Devine’s Bad Advice takeawayFollow the guests:Nikole MitchellInstagram: @mitchellnikoleTikTok: @mitchellnikoleMellanie MonroeInstagram: @mellaniemonroereelsX/Twitter: @mellaniemonroe7Follow Ava Devine's Bad AdviceInstagram: @avadevinesbadadviceX/Twitter: @avadevinespodResourcesStudio: Level 9 StudiosMakeup: Sanaya Beauty / @sanaya_mua (IG)#AvaDevinesBadAdvice #NikoleMitchell #MellanieMonroe #AdultIndustry #Relationships #Dating #SelfLove #AgeGapRelationships #Sexuality #WomenEmpowerment #Podcast #avadevine

Send us Fan MailToday, I sit down with Kimber James for a deeply honest conversation about body dysmorphia, plastic surgery, identity, self-image, and the lifelong search to feel comfortable in your own skin. From growing up feeling disconnected from her body and being relentlessly bullied as a child, to navigating transition, fame, beauty standards, and the pressures of the adult industry, Kimber opens up about the emotional complexity behind transformation, self-expression, and the need to feel accepted.Kimber reflects on childhood bullying, gender identity, eating disorders, dysmorphia, and the pressure to conform to impossible standards of beauty. Together, we unpack the emotional reality behind cosmetic surgery, the shame society places on women and trans women for altering their appearance, and the painful truth that changing the outside does not always heal what is happening internally. What looks glamorous or empowering from the outside can often come from a much deeper place of insecurity, survival, loneliness, or the need for control.As the conversation unfolds, Kimber speaks candidly about transitioning in the adult industry, living through botched surgeries and medical complications, appearing on *Botched*, addiction to change, social media pressures, relationships, and the exhausting cycle of constantly trying to “fix” yourself. We also explore self-worth, aging, healing, internal validation, and the difficult process of learning how to sit with yourself in a world that profits from making people feel inadequate.In this episode, you’ll learn:How Body Dysmorphia Begins in ChildhoodHow Bullying and Shame Impact Identity and Self-WorthHow Beauty Standards Shape the Way We See OurselvesHow Plastic Surgery Can Become an Emotional Coping MechanismHow Transitioning in the Adult Industry Creates Unique PressuresHow Social Media Intensifies Comparison and DissatisfactionHow Cosmetic Surgery Can Shift From Enhancement to ObsessionHow Health Complications Change Your Relationship With Your BodyHow Trauma, Relationships, and Insecurity Affect Self-ImageHow Self-Acceptance Is a Lifelong Process, Not a DestinationIf there’s one thing to take away from this episode, it’s this: changing your appearance may temporarily change how you feel, but it will never fully heal the parts of yourself that feel unloved, unseen, or unworthy. Real healing begins internally.Sending you all so much love,Ava DevineWhat We Discuss:00:00 Intro00:42 The Disconnect Between Body and Identity01:35 Feeling Different Since Childhood03:22 Bullying, Shame, and Growing Up Androgynous05:14 Transitioning and Hyper-Feminine Beauty Standards06:41 Dolly Parton, Beauty Ideals, and Wanting Transformation07:40 “I’ve Always Hated How I Look”08:37 Botched Surgeries and Health Complications09:25 Misconceptions About Transitioning and Attention10:57 Beauty Standards, Judgment, and Public Cruelty11:41 Living in a Constant State of Dysmorphia12:37 Depression, Surgery, and the Need for Control13:19 Chasing Trends and Social Media Validation14:07 Plastic Surgery, Obsession, and Self-Control15:05 Eating Disorders and Childhood Trauma16:37 Generational Beauty Standards and Learned Dysmorphia17:27 Why Society Judges Women No Matter What18:17 Feeling Like a Target for Looking “Overdone”19:00 The Difference Between Enhancement and Fixing Yourself20:39 Behind the Scenes of *Botched*22:16 Multiple Surgeries, Complications, and Recovery24:32 Vaginoplasty, Reconstruction, and Medical Advances25:28 Does Reality TV Help or Exploit People?26:58 Representing the Trans Community Publicly27:49 Wanting Surgery to Create Acceptance and Love29:19 Why Plastic Surgery Became Part of Identity30:03 Can Cosmetic Surgery Ever Be Healthy?31:42 Why Nobody Truly Feels Completely Comfortable32:31 When External Changes Don’t Heal Internal Pain34:01 Beauty Trends and the Pressure to Keep Up35:47 Social Media and the Loss of Individuality36:42 Why Self-Acceptance Is Still Difficult37:31 Addiction, Obsession, and the Desire for Change38:24 Learning to Slow Down and Reevaluate Priorities39:20 How to Know If You Truly Want to Change Yourself40:13 What It Means to Feel “Enough”41:59 Relationships, Insecurity, and Emotional Unavailability43:53 Why Healing Has to Start From Within44:50 My Final TakeawayFollow Ava DevineInstagram: @theoneandonlyavadevineTikTok: @1avadevineFollow Ava Devine's Bad Advice PodcastInstagram: @avadevinesbadadviceTikTok: @avadevinesbadadviceX: @avadevinespodFollow Kimber JamesInstagram: @OfficialKimberJamesSubmit your questions for the [email protected]

Send us Fan MailToday, I sit down with Keita Kieta, former 90s supermodel and actress, for a raw conversation about the hidden loneliness behind beauty, fame, addiction, and validation. From modeling for Elite and appearing in magazines like *Vanity Fair* and *Seventeen*, to partying in Hollywood, navigating toxic industry culture, and eventually spiraling into addiction and sex work, Keita opens up about the emotional emptiness that success could never fill.Keita reflects on growing up in an industry where drugs, alcohol, perfectionism, and exploitation were normalized, and how chasing external validation slowly disconnected her from herself. What looked glamorous from the outside often felt isolating internally. Keita details the emotional cost of constantly performing an image, the pressure women face to stay desirable, and how loneliness can exist even in rooms full of celebrities, wealth, and attention.As the conversation unfolds, Keita shares how sobriety, yoga, spirituality, and authentic connection helped rebuild her life from the inside out. Together, we speak candidly about aging, identity, depression, self-worth, body image, the reality of healing, and learning to let go of the belief that money, beauty, or fame can save us. What emerges is a conversation not just about addiction and recovery, but about learning how to come home to yourself.In this episode, you’ll learn:How Fame and Beauty Can Intensify LonelinessHow Addiction Becomes a Way to Escape Emotional PainHow External Validation Disconnects Us From OurselvesHow the Modeling and Entertainment Industries Normalize Self-DestructionHow Sobriety Changes Your Identity and RelationshipsHow Spirituality and Yoga Help Rebuild Self-WorthHow to Stop Chasing Perfection and Practice Self-AcceptanceHow Real Healing Begins Through Honesty, Support, and ConnectionIf there’s one thing to take away from this episode, it’s this: no matter how far you think you’ve fallen, there is always a way back. Healing doesn’t come from becoming more beautiful, successful, or desired; it comes from reconnecting with yourself, finding support, and learning that your worth was never dependent on the image you were trying to maintain.Sending you all so much love,Ava DevineWhat We Discuss:00:00 Intro00:48 Will Money, Beauty, and Attention Make You Happy?03:21 Chasing Success While Losing Yourself05:45 The Loneliness Behind Fame and Beauty08:09 Addiction, Hollywood, and Party Culture11:55 When Validation Stops Feeling Fulfilling12:45 Eating Disorders and Toxic Beauty Standards15:04 Playboy, Modeling, and Industry Pressure18:52 How Addiction Slowly Took Over20:12 Escaping Pain Through Drugs and Alcohol23:14 Why Real Human Connection Matters24:04 Feeling Lonely in Rooms Full of People25:51 Searching for Spirituality and Meaning28:56 Finding Yoga and Beginning Recovery31:22 Sex Work, Survival, and Reinvention34:11 Hitting Rock Bottom in Las Vegas37:07 Early Sobriety and Learning to Live Again40:49 Aging, Self-Acceptance, and Identity43:50 Why Competition Keeps Us Empty44:39 Learning to Forgive Yourself46:58 Addiction and the Modeling Industry48:36 What Spirituality Means Today52:03 Becoming the Person You Never Thought You Could Be53:36 How to Sit With Yourself Without Escaping54:19 What Healing Actually Requires55:06 “I Know the Way Home.”55:53 My Final TakeawayFollow Ava DevineInstagram: @theoneandonlyavadevineTikTok: @1avadevineFollow Kieta KietaInstagram: @KietakSubmit your questions for the [email protected]

Send us Fan MailToday on Ava Devine's Bad Advice, I sit down with Joseph Martinez to explore a powerful truth: you are not destined to become the environment you were raised in.In our conversation, Joseph opens up about growing up surrounded by gangs, violence, and survival-driven thinking, and how that world quietly shaped his identity before he realized it. From having a father serving a life sentence to inheriting “street beef” instead of opportunity, his story reveals what it really means to be raised in a system where certain paths feel inevitable.But this episode isn’t just about where he came from; it’s about what it takes to break away. Joseph shares the internal conflict of wanting that lifestyle, the influence of the people he looked up to, and the moments that slowly planted a different vision for his life. From a cousin who challenged his mindset, to becoming a young father, to confronting his own behaviors later in life, this conversation unpacks how change actually happens. Not overnight. Not perfectly. But through awareness, willingness, and the decision to want something more.In this episode, you'll learn:How Your Environment Shapes You And How to Break Free From ItWhy Leaving a Negative Lifestyle Is Harder Than It LooksHow Small Moments Can Change the Direction of Your LifeHow to Turn Survival Instincts Into Strength in the Real WorldHow to Control Your Emotions Instead of Letting Them Control YouHow to Redefine Masculinity in a Healthy WayHow to Build a New Identity Without Losing YourselfHow to Let Go of the Need for Approval From the Wrong PeopleHow to Channel “Hustle Mentality” Into Something PositiveHow to Move From Just Surviving to Actually ThrivingIf there’s one thing I want you to hold onto, it’s this: where you start does not have to be where you stay. Change doesn’t come from pretending your past didn’t happen, it comes from learning how to use it differently. I hope you love watching this episode as much as I did filming it.Ava DevineWhat We Discuss:00:00 Intro00:48 Growing Up in a Gang Environment02:23 How Environment Shapes Identity04:54 Life With a Father in Prison07:28 Shame, Identity, and Childhood Experiences10:02 Faith, God, and Finding Meaning12:13 Wanting the Lifestyle vs Questioning It14:01 The Moment That Changed Everything17:47 Why It’s So Hard to Leave That Life22:06 The Reality of Gang Culture and Family Ties25:04 Feeling Trapped and Fear of Judgment28:04 The Turning Point: Wanting Something More31:52 Redefining Masculinity34:31 Learning to Trust and Communicate36:17 Unlearning Old Behaviors40:05 Letting Go of “Tough Guy” Mentality41:32 From Hustling to Honest Living45:42 What Reinvention Really Looks Like48:31 Fatherhood, Pain, and Growth53:25 Breaking Generational Patterns54:25 How to Rebuild Your Identity56:47 Advice for Anyone Feeling Stuck58:21 Letting Go of Limiting Beliefs01:01:43 The Truth About That Lifestyle01:04:51 Feeling Like It’s Too Late to Change01:06:40 The Dark Side of the “Glamour.”01:07:27 Can Anyone Truly Change?Follow Ava DevineInstagram: @theoneandonlyavadevineTikTok: @1avadevineFollow Joseph MartinezInstagram: @mr.send.da.wireSubmit your questions for the [email protected]

Send us Fan MailOn this special solo episode of Ava Devine’s Bad Advice, Ava sits down on her own to answer her fans’ wildest, most unapologetic questions. No filter, no guest—just Ava being brutally honest.Ava answers her fans’ wildest questions, spills adult-industry secrets you’ll never see on camera, and breaks down what really happens behind the fantasy. Ava gets raw about her personal life, the taboos she’s lived, and why she started this podcast in the first place. Pure, unfiltered Devine chaos and damn bad advice!Follow us on Social Media: IG: @avadevinesbadadvice TikTok: @avadevinesbadadvice  Follow Ava: IG: @theoneandonlyavadevine TikTok: @1avadevine💌 Submit questions: [email protected] Us: https://linktr.ee/avadevinesbadadvice🎧 Listen on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify

Send us Fan MailAva Devine sits down with adult film actress Lia Lovely for an unfiltered, laugh-out-loud conversation about oversized breast implants, embracing the bimbo lifestyle, and the power of building your own platform outside traditional studios. Lia opens up about her life before the industry, the journey that shaped her path, and how plastic surgery became part of her self-expression rather than something to hide. The two also dive into past collaborations, independence in adult entertainment, and what it really means to own your brand. Honest, chaotic, and unapologetically fun—this episode delivers real talk, bad advice, and even a surprise kiss along the way.Follow us on Social Media:IG: @avadevinesbadadviceTikTok: @avadevinesbadadviceFollow Ava:IG: @theoneandonlyavadevineTikTok: @1avadevineFind Lia Lovely @aiamlialovely💌 Submit questions: [email protected] Us: https://linktr.ee/avadevinesbadadvice🎧 Listen on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify

Send us Fan MailAva Devine welcomes adult film star and podcast host Amanda Thickk, a vocal champion for BBW representation and body positivity in the industry. From navigating expectations to owning her curves on and off camera, Amanda breaks down the realities of being a bigger woman in adult entertainment. With Ava’s unfiltered curiosity and Amanda’s honest, empowered voice, this conversation dives into confidence, career challenges, and reshaping beauty standards—one real talk moment at a time with plenty of bad advice.Follow us on Social Media:IG: @avadevinesbadadviceTikTok: @avadevinesbadadviceFollow Ava:IG: @theoneandonlyavadevineTikTok: @1avadevineFind Amanda Thickk @amanda_thickk💌 Submit questions: [email protected] Us: https://linktr.ee/avadevinesbadadvice🎧 Listen on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify

Send us Fan MailAva Devine and guest host Kyle Ward sit down with Dr. Phillip Dimotsantos of Steadfast Performance Therapy for a fast, funny breakdown of how the body really works. Ava’s fans sent in some truly wild questions—yes, including self-suckers—and Dr. D explains how certain masturbation habits can create real tension and limit mobility.It’s hilarious and unexpectedly informative, with Ava’s unfiltered curiosity driving every moment. A must-listen for anyone who wants answers, laughs, and straight talk about the body.Follow us on Social Media:IG: @avadevinesbadadviceTikTok: @avadevinesbadadviceFollow Ava:IG: @theoneandonlyavadevineTikTok: @1avadevineFollow Kyle:IG: @kflexfitnessTikTok: @kflexfitnessFind Phillip Dimotsantos: @steadfastpt (Steadfast Performance Therapy)💌 Submit questions: [email protected] Us: https://linktr.ee/avadevinesbadadvice🎧 Listen on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify

Send us Fan MailAva Devine and guest host Kyle Ward sit down with Las Vegas urologist Dr. Michael Kaplan, the HarderNaturally.com expert known for tackling erectile dysfunction with clarity and honesty. Ava’s fans bring the questions, and Dr. Kaplan brings the answers—breaking down causes, treatments, and real solutions for men looking to regain confidence in the bedroom. With Ava’s unfiltered curiosity and Kyle’s thoughtful insights, this episode is informative, approachable, and surprisingly fun.Follow us on Social Media:IG: @avadevinesbadadviceTikTok: @avadevinesbadadviceFollow Ava:IG: @theoneandonlyavadevineTikTok: @1avadevineFollow Kyle:IG: @kflexfitnessTikTok: @kflexfitnessFind Dr.Kaplan HarderNaturally.com💌 Submit questions: [email protected] Us: https://linktr.ee/avadevinesbadadvice🎧 Listen on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify

Send us Fan MailAva Devine sits down with the owner of Mean Bitches Productions to gain clarity on the fem dom lifestyle and what it takes to be part of his directed scenes. With a strong emphasis on allowing Women to take control and dominate willing Men. Film Director Glenn King expressed some men's desire to be smothered and covered in a woman's back door pheromones. This is a phenomenon that few understand better than this Evil Angel and AVN director. Ava and Glenn go way back, almost 2 decades ago, and they don't skip a beat. With Kyle's inquisitive nature and Ava's shock value personality... This episode is a must-see!Follow us on Social Media:IG: @avadevinebadadviceTikTok: @avadevinesbadadviceFollow Ava:IG: @theoneandonlyavadevineTikTok: @1avadevineFollow Kyle:IG: @kflexfitnessTikTok: @kflexfitnessFollow Glenn King: IG: @glennking_xx💌 Submit questions: [email protected] Us: https://linktr.ee/avadevinesbadadvice🎧 Listen on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify

Send us Fan MailAva Devine sits down with Brandi Mae for a candid, fast-paced conversation about dating in the adult film industry and navigating attention as a muscular woman. They break down the new Booty Slap Entertainment competition—a cheeky twist on slap sports—and bring in trainer Kyle Ward to compare experiences, pressure, and body-driven expectations. The trio keeps it unfiltered and funny, flexing pecs, trading stories, and laughing through an unexpected mix of muscles, media, and mayhem.Follow us on Social Media:IG: @avadevinebadadviceTikTok: @avadevinesbadadviceFollow Ava:IG: @theoneandonlyavadevineTikTok: @1avadevineFollow Kyle:IG: @kflexfitnessTikTok: @kflexfitnessFollow Brandi Mae: IG: @sexybuffbabe💌 Submit questions: [email protected] Us: https://linktr.ee/avadevinesbadadvice🎧 Listen on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify

Send us Fan MailFollow us on Social Media:IG: @avadevinebadadviceTikTok: @avadevinesbadadviceFollow Ava:IG: @theoneandonlyavadevineTikTok: @1avadevineFollow Kyle:IG: @kflexfitnessTikTok: @kflexfitness💌 Submit questions: [email protected] Us: https://linktr.ee/avadevinesbadadvice🎧 Listen on YouTube, Apple, and Spotify