After Marriage: How to Win Reality with Your Spouse

Married life really brings a dose of reality that can be different from what we expect. How do couples bridge this gap without feeling disillusioned?Joining our host, Aaron Ng, is Ivan and Kerin Lau, a young couple who got married in 2020 and now have a 8 month old baby. Exploring how couples can communicate and negotiate expectations with the realities of married life, Ivan and Kerin share their experiences and some helpful tips – like having methodical debrief sessions after conflicts.“The shift in my expectations was to come to terms with reality, to acknowledge that, “OK, it's never going to work in a way that I want it to if I insist.” So, why not I adjust and be patient? Loving someone means that I have to sometimes say no to myself, by saying yes to her.”---Managing expectations and realities of married life doesn’t come naturally after marriage. It takes intentional effort to jumpstart talking through the complexities with your spouse. If you're planning to tie the knot soon, do register for our upcoming Connect2 marriage preparation programme starting in April!Come journey with marriage trainers and fellow couples, find out more at www.family.org.sg/Connect2.---If you have enjoyed this episode, please leave us a rating and review on Apple Podcast or Podchaser. It'll be very helpful for others to find our podcast. You can also help us by copying this link www.family.org.sg/parentedpodcast to share with your friends.You can also support us by giving monthly. We appreciate your generous giving as every dollar helps to sustain our efforts in strengthening families. Do note that if you are based in Singapore, one-time gifts above SGD$50 or monthly donations above SGD$10 are eligible for 250% tax-deductible benefits.