Alisha Roth | Christians and Divorce

Join me and Alisha Roth for a honest conversation about what it takes to leave a marriage when you’ve done everything “right”—the Christian college, the missionary training, the four daughters—and why the church’s fear and control around divorce leaves women trapped in unsafe situations.Topics Covered* The question that changed everything and why the answer unlocked self-love Alisha couldn’t access when it was just about her own safety* Why “your husband has a right to your body” made it impossible to trust what her body already knew, and how one therapist naming abuse as abuse cracked open the church bubble keeping her trapped* The stat the church doesn’t want you to know* Why women who choose to leave face different judgment than women who get left* What happened when Alisha’s therapist refused to tell her whether to get divorced—and why learning that taking ownership of your own life (instead of keeping everyone else happy) is the holy workTimestamps: 01:00 When Everything Looks Right But Something’s Wrong 05:00 Having Someone Name the Abuse Changes Everything 10:00 Why the Church Blames Women Who Leave 15:00 Fear, Control, and Managing God’s Image 20:00 Finding Hope and Community After Loss 24:00 Why It Matters to Talk About Choosing to Leave 29:00 Taking Ownership: “I Have to Make This Decision” 32:00 Rebuilding Faith: Love Over Rules 35:00 Finding the Book and Alisha’s Work This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kateboyd.substack.com/subscribe