Companion Emotions - When Joy Walks With Fear

Something hit me while reading Luke this Christmas season — a passage I’ve read or had read to me my whole life.The angel appears to the shepherds and says:“Do not be afraid… I bring you good tidings of great joy.”And two words leapt off the page: afraid and joy.    Notice what it doesn’t say: your fear is wrong. The angel doesn’t shame the shepherds for being afraid. They were terrified — totally natural. I mean, an ANGEL just appeared in the middle of the night!But joy was there too — not instead of the fear, not erasing it, just quietly present.What if fear isn’t something to get rid of before joy can show up?Here’s the thought that really settled in for me:If we only felt joy:We wouldn’t seek comfort.We wouldn’t cry out.We wouldn’t notice when we need help or guidance.Some feelings alert us — they get our attention, signal something important, point us toward what matters. That’s usually the uncomfortable ones: fear, grief, anxiety, anger, sadness.Other feelings anchor us — they steady us, remind us support exists, and show that even in the hard moments, there are sparks of light. That’s usually the positive ones: joy, calm, compassion, comfort, relief.Here’s the amazing part: they aren’t opposites. They’re companions. The alerting feeling draws our attention. The anchoring feeling helps us sit with it without judgment. They work together — if we allow them to.And maybe they were always meant to work together — we just haven’t learned how to let them.Order your copy of And That's Okay! book Follow along over on InstagramHang out with us on Facebook