Anti-Martyr and The refusal to sacrifice “The self/EGO - No one is Coming to Save You when it comes to Healing Your-Self

Is the expectation that your partner keep you emotionally “safe” motivated by your need to protect your ego? How can one better discern their own motives in regard ro expectations in a relationship? In what way can shielding your partner from their inner work be detrimental to the longevity of your relationship? What are some ways that we actively or unconsciously try to do our partner’s work for them? How can the demand for a safe space actually be evidence of a lack of inner healing?