Ask a Man 03 Feb '25: 'We're married but our families don't know.'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 10 years and they have a child together. When she called in last year she shared how she felt like her partner was not contributing financially in their household.  Anonymous says that situation has persisted and another thing is that they are in a civil marriage but their families are not aware of this situation.  Anonymous says he keeps coming up with financial excuses about why they can’t have an African traditional marriage, but she just doesn’t understand this. Anonymous is worried she might have made a mistake by marrying him.