Ask A Man 07 Feb '24: 'I have a secret child with my married side.'

Anonymous is married and started having an affair with a married woman a few years ago. They eventually had a child together and have kept it a secret till this day. Anonymous used to spend time with the child, but the child has now turned 3 and they’ve had to stop the visits because the husband of anonymous’ side might find out. Anonymous has children in his marriage. Anonymous wants to have a relationship with the child but doesn’t know how to go about dealing with this.