Ask a Man 07 Oct '25: 'I'm in love with my friend but she's a bit messy'

Anonymous has known his friend and colleague for about three years now and says when they initially met they were both in relationships.  Their friendship has grown a lot over the last couple of years and he has realised in recent months that he has romantic feelings for her.  They are now both single and he adds that she is struggling to let go of her abusive ex, and she’s also currently engaging with other potentials sexually.  He doesn’t want to jeopardise their friendship by revealing his feelings for her.