Ask a Man 24 July '26: 'I'm happy being a side but he wants to make me the main.'

Anonymous was in an 8 year long relationship that ended less than two months ago as result of her now ex partner being abusive.  Shortly after breaking up her long term partner she reached out to another guy who had been pursuing her for over a year. They started casually dating as the guy was in a relationship with someone else.  She’s was ok with the fact that he was with someone else as that would keep their relationship casual.  The guy now wants to break up with his girlfriend so he can be with anonymous but she’s not interested in having anything serious currently as she’s still recovering from her previous relationship.  She’s not sure if she should break things off him as she also does have deeper feelings for the guy.