Ask a Man 24 July '25: 'He wants to marry me but his wife is refusing.'

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 4 years now, however, he was in what he described as a complicated relationship with the mother of his child when they met.  Her partner then moved in together with the mother of his child as she was kicked out from her home and needed shelter. As it turns out they got back together and he has now paid lobola for this other lady.  Anonymous has since had a child with her partner, and him and his family are now saying they want to take her in as a second wife. Anonymous is not sure about any of this.