Ask A Man 24 June '24: 'Too much going on with my partner'

Anonymous has been with his partner since 2007 , however, he says he cheated on his partner in the early days of their relationship which he thinks has led to her being sceptical about marrying him even now years later. Anonymous says their relationship has been generally ok however he lost his job in 2019 and she became the sole breadwinner which led to him realising that she has a gambling problem. Anonymous says they’ve had various financial challenges over the last few years that have strained their relationship and anonymous says she hides a lot about her finances. Anonymous says his partner has now asked him to get a vasectomy but he’s not sure he wants to do it for his partner who doesn’t want to marry him. Anonymous feels like he’s not being heard in the relationship and doesn’t know what to do about all these issues they are having.