Ask A Man 27 June '24: 'I've done so much for my partner but she's giving me nothing'

Anonymous has been with his partner for 16 years and they now have 3 kids together. Anonymous says he did start lobola proceedings before they moved in together however the process wasn’t completed because he focused on buying a home for them in their village. Anonymous says he’s since tried to complete the process of lobola but says his partner’s family has been postponing having a meeting with his family. Anonymous says a few months ago his mother passed away and his partner didn’t come and she didn’t even send his kids to come and bury their grandmother. Anonymous says his partner then suddenly moved out of their home and moved to her parent’s house with the kids. Anonymous says her partner’s mother then told him that her partner is sick but they shared very little information with him. Anonymous says he managed to get his kids to come back home so they can go to school and 2 weeks ago she came back to their house unannounced. Anonymous says she’s still not sharing information about why she was gone. Anonymous is note sure if the relationship is worth salvaging.