Ask a Man 31 July '25: 'Is he still with the mother of his children?'

Anonymous has been with her boyfriend since late last year and they work together.  She works in HR and when he had to apply for family responsibility leave in her office, she found out that his ex had just given birth to his child and he had been hiding that pregnancy from her. Another issue in their relationship is family planning, anonymous wants her partner to share in the costs of the contraceptive she wants to use but he doesn’t agree.  She’s wondering if he’s lying about the relationship he has with the mother of his children and whether she’s unreasonable for wanting him to contribute to the contraceptive.