Ask A Man 31 March '26: 'Will we get over our past trauma?'

Anonymous started dating his partner a year ago, and says they both came into the relationship carrying a lot of relationship trauma and this led to them being paranoid and even spying on each other.  He loves his partner a lot but says his partner is struggling to trust him. He’s never cheated on her but says when they were going through some challenges in their relationship, she found an Instagram DM in which anonymous was asking for another lady’s number.  They separated after this incident but ended up getting back together. He says things haven’t been the same ever since, as she’s constantly scanning his phone and bringing up things from the past, despite what he describes as a change in his behaviour.