🎙️Ask Me Anything – E10: Learning to Care Less About What Others Think

In this episode, I respond to a question from Mark, who writes:“Hi Kyira, my name’s Mark, and I’m in my early 40s. For as long as I can remember, I’ve been obsessed with how people see me — whether they respect me, whether I’m coming across as competent or put together. On the outside, I think most people would describe me as confident, but inside I’m constantly worrying that I’m not enough or that I’m going to be exposed somehow.I feel like I’ve spent my whole life trying to live up to everyone else’s expectations, and it’s exhausting. I want to stop caring so much about what other people think, but honestly, I don’t even know who I am without that. And as a man, there’s this pressure to act like nothing bothers me, so I just bury it all and pretend I’m fine. How do I start caring less about how I’m perceived and more about how I see myself?”We explore how shame, anxiety, and toxic masculinity can keep us stuck in performance mode — always scanning for approval and never feeling truly at peace. Inside this episode, we’ll talk about:Why the need for validation is human, not a personal flawHow cultural expectations around masculinity fuel disconnection and hidden anxietyWhat it looks like to start reconnecting with your own perspective and self-trustSimple daily practices for shifting from external approval to internal clarityIf you’ve ever felt like you’re performing confidence while silently worrying you’re not enough — this one is for you.📝 Want to submit a question for a future episode?Nothing is off-limits (well, almost nothing).⁠Submit⁠ anonymously or with your name — whatever feels safest for you.👉 https://forms.gle/1uYJ87Y2Vag6KYCeA🧠 If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who might need it. Let’s break the silence — together.Ready to take the next step?Download the FREE handout, “⁠5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day⁠” to start building daily practices that shift you out of shame and back into self-trust.⁠Book a free 25-minute discovery call⁠ to explore programs and support that align with your needs.Stay Connected:Subscribe to the podcast on ⁠Spotify⁠ or ⁠Apple⁠ and leave a review to share your thoughts.⁠YouTube⁠⁠Website⁠💬 You don’t have to keep performing to be worthy. The real freedom comes from knowing who you are when you stop trying to impress everyone else.#AskMeAnything #PeoplePleasing #ToxicMasculinity #SelfTrust #ShameResilience #AdversityRising