EPISODE · Sep 15, 2025 · 5 MIN
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E19: Why Does It Feel Like I’m Always the Bad Guy for Not Calling My Mom?
from Untethering Shame · host Kyira Wackett
In this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous listener who writes:“Why does it always feel like I’m the bad guy for not calling my mom every day when she could just as easily call me? I’m exhausted and somehow it’s still on me.”If you’ve ever felt guilty for not calling enough — or been shamed for not doing more to “keep the relationship alive” — you’ll connect with this one. We explore the guilt adult children often feel when parents put the responsibility of connection entirely on them, and what it takes to set that weight down.Inside this episode, we’ll talk about:Why this guilt doesn’t actually belong to youThe myth of “role reversal” in adult parent–child relationshipsHow guilt trips erode connection instead of building itPractical ways to respond to “You never call me” without caving or overexplainingIf you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly cast as the “bad guy” in your relationship with a parent, this episode is for you.📝 Want to submit a question for a future episode?Nothing is off-limits (well, almost nothing).Submit here anonymously or with your name — whatever feels safest for you.👉 https://forms.gle/1uYJ87Y2Vag6KYCeA🧠 If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who might need it. Let’s break the silence — together.Ready to take the next step?Download the FREE handout, “5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day” to start grounding your life in values, not shame.Book a free 25-minute discovery call to explore personalized coaching or programs that support your next step.Stay Connected:Subscribe on Spotify or Apple, and leave a review to share your thoughts.YouTubeWebsite💬 Love should feel mutual, not one-sided. You don’t have to carry the relationship alone.#AskMeAnything #FamilyBoundaries #ShameResilience #AdultChildren #AdversityRising
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In this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous listener who writes:“Why does it always feel like I’m the bad guy for not calling my mom every day when she could just as easily call me? I’m exhausted and somehow it’s still on me.”If you’ve ever felt guilty for not calling enough — or been shamed for not doing more to “keep the relationship alive” — you’ll connect with this one. We explore the guilt adult children often feel when parents put the responsibility of connection entirely on them, and what it takes to set that weight down.Inside this episode, we’ll talk about:Why this guilt doesn’t actually belong to youThe myth of “role reversal” in adult parent–child relationshipsHow guilt trips erode connection instead of building itPractical ways to respond to “You never call me” without caving or overexplainingIf you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly cast as the “bad guy” in your relationship with a parent, this episode is for you.📝 Want to submit a question for a future episode?Nothing is off-limits (well, almost nothing).Submit here anonymously or with your name — whatever feels safest for you.👉 https://forms.gle/1uYJ87Y2Vag6KYCeA🧠 If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who might need it. Let’s break the silence — together.Ready to take the next step?Download the FREE handout, “5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day” to start grounding your life in values, not shame.Book a free 25-minute discovery call to explore personalized coaching or programs that support your next step.Stay Connected:Subscribe on Spotify or Apple, and leave a review to share your thoughts.YouTubeWebsite💬 Love should feel mutual, not one-sided. You don’t have to carry the relationship alone.#AskMeAnything #FamilyBoundaries #ShameResilience #AdultChildren #AdversityRising
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