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EPISODE · Oct 27, 2025 · 9 MIN

🎙️Ask Me Anything – E25: When It’s Not About You (But It Still Hurts)

from Untethering Shame · host Kyira Wackett

In this week’s AMA, Kyira answers a question from a listener who works in a job where they’re constantly being yelled at — not because they’ve done something wrong, but because they’re the one standing in front of people when things go wrong. Even when you know it isn’t personal, it can still feel personal. So how do you hold onto your empathy without letting shame or resentment take over?Kyira explores the tension between logic and emotion — why your nervous system reacts as if you’re under attack, even when your brain knows better — and how to protect your dignity without losing your compassion. This episode is about reclaiming your sense of peace in the face of others’ chaos, learning to name what’s yours (and what’s not), and remembering that caring doesn’t mean carrying.💡 Key TakeawaysYour nervous system reacts faster than logic — even when you know it’s not about you, your body still feels the threat.Boundaries protect your dignity and keep you grounded in your values.Empathy doesn’t mean absorbing other people’s emotions or taking on their work.Anger isn’t a flaw — it’s a signal that your boundaries have been crossed.Create small rituals to reset and release what isn’t yours.🔗 Resources & MentionsJoin the Boundaried & Brave challenge to deepen your work around emotional boundaries and self-trust.Have a question you’d like Kyira to explore in a future AMA episode? Submit it at adversityrising.com/podcast

In this week’s AMA, Kyira answers a question from a listener who works in a job where they’re constantly being yelled at — not because they’ve done something wrong, but because they’re the one standing in front of people when things go wrong. Even when you know it isn’t personal, it can still feel personal. So how do you hold onto your empathy without letting shame or resentment take over?Kyira explores the tension between logic and emotion — why your nervous system reacts as if you’re under attack, even when your brain knows better — and how to protect your dignity without losing your compassion. This episode is about reclaiming your sense of peace in the face of others’ chaos, learning to name what’s yours (and what’s not), and remembering that caring doesn’t mean carrying.💡 Key TakeawaysYour nervous system reacts faster than logic — even when you know it’s not about you, your body still feels the threat.Boundaries protect your dignity and keep you grounded in your values.Empathy doesn’t mean absorbing other people’s emotions or taking on their work.Anger isn’t a flaw — it’s a signal that your boundaries have been crossed.Create small rituals to reset and release what isn’t yours.🔗 Resources & MentionsJoin the Boundaried & Brave challenge to deepen your work around emotional boundaries and self-trust.Have a question you’d like Kyira to explore in a future AMA episode? Submit it at adversityrising.com/podcast

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