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EPISODE · Jan 14, 2026 · 7 MIN

🎙️Ask Me Anything – E36: How Do I Trust Myself After Picking the Wrong People So Many Times?

from Untethering Shame · host Kyira Wackett

In this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous listener who writes:“I keep ending up with emotionally unavailable people. I want to believe I’ve learned, but part of me feels like I’ll just make the same mistake again. How do I rebuild trust in myself?”We explore the intersection of shame, self-trust, and growth — and how our fear of repeating mistakes often hides our progress. Inside this episode, we’ll talk about:Why shame turns reflection into self-blameHow hindsight can actually be evidence of healingThe difference between “I can’t trust myself” and “I’m learning to listen to myself”Tangible ways to rebuild trust through self-awareness and aligned actionIf you’ve ever doubted yourself after heartbreak or repeated patterns, this episode will help you understand what self-trust really means — and how to rebuild it through compassion, not perfection.📝 Want to submit a question for a future episode?Nothing is off-limits (well, almost nothing).⁠Submit your question⁠ anonymously or with your name — whatever feels safest for you.👉 https://forms.gle/1uYJ87Y2Vag6KYCeA💬 If this episode spoke to you, drop a comment and share your biggest takeaway or reflection — I’d love to hear what came up for you.Ready to take the next step?Download the FREE handout, “⁠5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day⁠” to start building a relationship with yourself rooted in trust, not comparison.⁠Book a free 25-minute discovery call⁠ to explore coaching or program options that meet you where you are.Stay Connected:Subscribe on ⁠Spotify⁠ or ⁠Apple⁠, and leave a review to share your thoughts.⁠YouTube⁠⁠Website⁠💬 You are not your content. Your worth exists offline too.#AskMeAnything #SelfTrust #Relationships #ShameResilience #AdversityRising

In this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous listener who writes:“I keep ending up with emotionally unavailable people. I want to believe I’ve learned, but part of me feels like I’ll just make the same mistake again. How do I rebuild trust in myself?”We explore the intersection of shame, self-trust, and growth — and how our fear of repeating mistakes often hides our progress. Inside this episode, we’ll talk about:Why shame turns reflection into self-blameHow hindsight can actually be evidence of healingThe difference between “I can’t trust myself” and “I’m learning to listen to myself”Tangible ways to rebuild trust through self-awareness and aligned actionIf you’ve ever doubted yourself after heartbreak or repeated patterns, this episode will help you understand what self-trust really means — and how to rebuild it through compassion, not perfection.📝 Want to submit a question for a future episode?Nothing is off-limits (well, almost nothing).⁠Submit your question⁠ anonymously or with your name — whatever feels safest for you.👉 https://forms.gle/1uYJ87Y2Vag6KYCeA💬 If this episode spoke to you, drop a comment and share your biggest takeaway or reflection — I’d love to hear what came up for you.Ready to take the next step?Download the FREE handout, “⁠5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day⁠” to start building a relationship with yourself rooted in trust, not comparison.⁠Book a free 25-minute discovery call⁠ to explore coaching or program options that meet you where you are.Stay Connected:Subscribe on ⁠Spotify⁠ or ⁠Apple⁠, and leave a review to share your thoughts.⁠YouTube⁠⁠Website⁠💬 You are not your content. Your worth exists offline too.#AskMeAnything #SelfTrust #Relationships #ShameResilience #AdversityRising

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