🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E58: Having Needs Doesn't Make You Needy (And Why You Were Taught Otherwise)

Having a need is not the same as being needy. Those two got conflated so early that for a lot of us they feel identical. They're not.This week's anonymous question: "Every time I try to ask for what I need I either over-explain and justify for twenty minutes, or I say nothing and then explode two weeks later. I was told so many times as a kid that I was too needy that I don't know how to have a need anymore. How do I ask without it being a whole thing?"I break down where the "I'm too much" story comes from, why over-explaining and exploding are the same protection wearing different clothes, and what a clean, direct ask actually sounds like.This is for you if:You justify before you askYou go quiet and blow up laterYou were called dramatic or too much as a kidHomework: pick one small need. Say it out loud. No preamble, no apology, no justification. Just "I need ____."Your needs are not the problem. They never were.Resources & LinksTake the Burnout Quiz: https://adversityrising.com/quizLiberated Living Program: https://adversityrising.com/liberated-livingFree Guide, Five Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day: https://adversityrising.com/become-shame-resilientSubmit a question for a future AMA: https://adversityrising.com/shame-free-qaBook a Discovery Call: https://calendly.com/adversityrising/discovery-callConnect with KyiraInstagram & TikTok: @adversityrisingWebsite: https://adversityrising.comSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2AouludJr7EweOkMIN9s42Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/untethering-shame/id1691795543