The First 3 Years Matter: Attachment, Presence and Your Child's Development

Listener Note: This episode explores a specific, often traditional perspective on parenting that may trigger feelings of "mom guilt." Please listen with care and take only what serves you.In this episode of Dam Parenting, we dive into the deep—and sometimes polarizing—waters of attachment theory with licensed clinical social worker and author Erica Komisar. With over 30 years of experience, Erica discusses the core thesis of her book, Being There, focusing on the emotional and physical presence of a mother during a child’s first three years. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the science of early childhood development, while acknowledging the immense societal and professional pressures modern mothers face—especially as internationals in the Netherlands. This is a conversation about the "why" behind attachment, the challenges of finding balance, and the importance of self-compassion as we navigate our unique parenting journeys. Whether you're seeking affirmation or a new perspective, we're holding space for it all.