Authentic Self III: How does your inner child show up?

“Suck it up!”, “Walk it off!”, “Don’t be a girl!” – these are toxic things we were told as kids that made us put a mask over our authentic selves. Jodie and Stephanie explore the profound and complex topic of internal family systems (IFS), and the interrelated concepts of masking and unmasking. Plus, how these psychological shields can be both a protective mechanism and a hindrance, often concealing our most vulnerable and authentic selves. We discuss the idea of 'exiles' – those parts of us that are deeply hurt and inform our present lives – and how they interact with 'managers' and 'firefighters', the parts of us that strive to protect our exiles from being triggered.Jodie and Stephanie attempt to answer questions like:What is the role of vulnerability in our personal and professional lives?How important is it to honour our inner child and how does this relate to authenticity?How can unmasking lead to more authentic relationships and a stronger, more genuine connection with others?How do we remove our masks and become more of our authentic selves?Chapters:(00:02) Unmasking and AuthenticityWe explore the topic of internal family systems (IFS) and the concepts of masking and unmasking. We discuss how masking can be helpful, and how unmasking is essential for self-improvement, growth, and relationships. We also talk about the idea of exiles, which are the hurt and vulnerable parts of ourselves, and how they inform our present life. (09:27) Importance of Authenticity and Emotional ExpressionWe discuss how managers, firefighters, and exiles can serve a protective purpose, but also how we can recognize when these masks no longer serve us. We explore how vulnerability is often not rewarded in the workplace and how people use masks as a form of survival. We emphasise the importance of creating a safe space to process and release emotions. (15:04) Embracing Authenticity in Parenting and Self-GrowthWe look at the need for self-compassion and honouring our inner child. We discuss how unmasking can help us become more of our authentic selves, and how to recognize when masks are no longer serving us. We also explore the use of IFS for inner child work, and how we can use it to foster authenticity. (21:00) Discovering Authenticity and Removing MasksWe explore the importance of self-compassion and the power of unmasking to lead to more authentic relationships. We discuss how our younger selves often mask their true identities out of fear of not fitting in, and how important it is to have people in your life that support you in dropping that mask and embracing your true self. Resources:Internal Family Systems (IFS) pie chart (on Managers, Firefighters and Exiles)More information on Jodie-Lockey DueslingMore information on Stephanie DinsmoreBook an appointment with Mindful Path CounsellingFollow us on InstagramDisclaimer: Please note that while the "Therapists off the Clock" presents discussions on various mental health topics and provides general advice and education, it is not a substitute for professional mental health services or counselling. The information shared by the hosts is based on their professional experiences and personal observations, and it should not be considered as professional mental health advice. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis or are considering self-harm, please seek immediate help from a healthcare provider. If you need professional counselling or psychotherapy, we recommend reaching out to a qualified mental health professional in your area. While we hope our podcast provides support and encouragement, it is not intended to replace any therapeutic relationship or specific advice provided by a mental health professional. Your use of this podcast does not establish a counsellor-client relationship with the hosts or any guests. Any action you take upon the information on this podcast is strictly at your own risk, and we will not be liable for any losses and damages in connection with the use of our podcast. Always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your mental health or a medical condition.