Balancing Aroha for Our People and Aroha for Ourselves

The Hello Frequency Podcast acknowledges the Tainui people of the Waikato region, where it was recorded. Respects to elders past, present, and emerging. Welcome to The Hello Frequency, My Dear Listeners: I am your host, Caya. Balancing Aroha for Our People and Aroha for Ourselves In Balancing Aroha for Our People and Aroha for Ourselves, Akasha and I explore the delicate interplay between self-empathy and community care. This episode delves into the journey of developing empathy for oneself, questioning how empathy differs from people-pleasing, and the importance of recognising empathy as something grounded within rather than seeking validation externally. Together, we examine patience, self-compassion, and the clarity that silence can bring as we reconstruct the gendered and racialised nuances often embedded in empathy. We also engage in critical reflections on the foundations of tikanga (values and principles) and discuss how empathy, rooted in pauses and silence, allows us to connect deeply with ourselves and others. Topics include managing the time we dedicate to community while ensuring self-care, rebuilding authentic principles, and understanding the courage required to embrace empathy with awareness. We touch on how anxiety can be a persistent presence, and how self-preservation can manifest in silence, guiding us to listen more closely to ourselves and act from a place of inner clarity.Ultimately, this conversation invites you to approach empathy with intentionality and courage, balancing aroha for others with aroha for yourself.#HowDoIDevelopEmpathyForMyOwnSelf #TheDifferenceBetweenEmpathyAndPeoplePleasingBehaviours #EmpathyIsNotAboutSeekingValidationFromOthers #HavingPatienceForMyself #SelfCompassion #TheClarityInSilence #QuestioningDeconstructingAndReconstructingGenderedAspectsOfEmpathy #CriticalThinkingIsRequiredToUnpackEmpathy #CriticalReflectionsOnWhatGroundsUsAndWhyWeDoThingsLikeEmpathising #BringMeaningsThatMakeSenseToYouAuthentically #DrivenByAuthenticPurposesThatMakesSenseToMe #RebuildingPrinciplesThatAreAuthenticToYourself #HowDoIManageTimeForMyCommunityWhileNotNeglectingTimeNeededForSelfcare #Aroha #TheFoundationsOfTikanga #EmpathyinThePowerOfPauses #ThePowerOfWhatWeCanHearInSilence #EnhanceTheAbilityToListenToMyself #AnxietyIsTheStubbornLoverThatNeverLeaves #SelfPreservationInSilence #EmpathyWithAwarenessIsACourageousAct Citation© Divakalala, C & Rio, A. (2024). Balancing Aroha for Our People and Aroha for Ourselves. The Hello Frequency, A Lifestyle Podcast. Remember, in a world where discord echoes loudly, let empathy be our pluriversal language!