Becoming Before Belonging

People say things like: “When I get married, I’ll become more patient.” Or “Once I have a husband or a wife, I’ll learn how to serve and sacrifice.” Some even think marriage itself will fix habits like selfishness, pride, irresponsibility, or avoidance. But let’s pause here—because the truth is, marriage doesn’t magically transform us. Marriage doesn’t turn you into your dream self. Marriage magnifies who you already are.