Befriending Your Traumatised and ADHD Inner Children

You were NEVER too much.In episode 73 of Feel Better Every Day Podcast, trauma therapist, author, producer and host Eve Menezes Cunningham shares some of her decades-long journey of Inner Child work.You’ll learn:• Why children with ADHD internalise significantly more criticism and shame• How to identify different Inner Child parts / subpersonalities (playful, creative, curious, wounded)• Eve's recent breakthrough with crisps about feeling "too much" from babyhood and how childhood coping mechanisms shaped her adult patterns• Gentle approaches to Inner Child work that won't overwhelm you• The Feel...Love...Heal framework for Inner Child workYou were never "too much". You were, like all babies, children and adults across this wondrous world we live in, a miraculous child deserving of love and understanding.Whether you're new to Inner Child work or revisiting it with fresh perspective, this episode offers trauma-informed, ADHD-friendly guidance for healing those tender parts of yourself.Feel Better Every Day! Learn from the self and Self* care practices the professionals depend on. With a mixture of solo and interview episodes, your host, Eve Menezes Cunningham (author of 365 Ways to Feel Better: Self-care Ideas for Embodied Wellbeing) shares trauma-informed and VAST / ADHD-friendly self and Self* care ideas to help you: • Feel... connect with and honour your lifeforce (charge, prana, chi etc), regulate your nervous system and do the things that help you create a life you don’t need to retreat from • Love... accept yourself completely with love, compassion and kindness – you don’t need to do a thing and • Heal... collective care to turn what hurts your heart into action to help heal yourself, your family, organisations, communities and the world at large Thanks for watching. New episodes come out every Tuesday morning (Ireland time) and if you subscribe (via your favourite podcasting app or by joining the Sole to Soul Circle), you’ll be notified about each new episode. Sole to Soul Circle members get deeper dives each week. RESOURCES• Episode 65 of the Feel Better Every Day Podcast• 365 Ways to Feel Better book• the Sole to Soul Circle for deeper explorationConnect with Eve:🌐 thefeelbettereverydaypodcast.com📧 selfcarecoaching.netWANT TO WORK WITH ME? • There’s the book – 365 Ways to Feel Better: Self-care Ideas for Embodied Wellbeing – and all the book bonus videos. • All the free resources (for trauma, ADHD, menopause, solopreneurs, anxiety, sleep, confidence, resilience, finding purpose, meaning and joy and more) across my platforms and the library of self-care ideas and practices at https://selfcarecoaching.net • You can join the Sole to Soul Circle on Substack (https://evemc.substack.com ) and get bonus interviews and content specially designed to help you dive deeper into each week’s theme. • If you want to support my work but don’t want to commit to a membership, even for a month, you can choose any amount at https://ko-fi.com/evemc • Find out more about my private practice for one to one work. 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Please subscribe / follow and share with someone who you think will benefit from this episode.CHAPTERS(0:00 - 0:19) Opening: Responsibility for keeping your Inner Child safe(0:20 - 2:15) Introduction to the podcast and resources(2:15 - 4:08) Episode focus: working with Inner Children(4:08 - 6:30) ADHD, trauma, and the impact on Inner Children(6:30 - 8:45) Using photos to represent different Inner Children(8:45 - 11:10) Different types of Inner Children: playful, curious, wounded, needy(11:10 - 12:47) Gentle approach and sharing experiences with Inner Child work(12:48 - 15:50) Personal story: childhood photos and self-loathing v healing(15:50 - 19:30) Reflections on childhood eating, parental limitations and self-compassion(19:30 - 23:10) Accepting joyful and wounded parts of yourself(23:10 - 26:00) Love phase of Feel… Love… Heal…: connecting with Inner Children through journalling and objects(26:00 - 29:10) Heal phase: noticing and supporting Inner Children in yourself and others(29:10 - 32:47) Closing reflections: revisiting Inner Children, self-compassion, and encouragement for continued workFULL TRANSCRIPTYou're taking responsibility for keeping your Inner Child safe. You as the adult have survived and this can be transformational and a lot can come up.Hi, I'm Eve Menezes Cunningham and you're listening to the Feel Better Every Day Podcast.Every Tuesday I share trauma-informed and ADHD-friendly self-care ideas to help you take better care of yourself and your Self with that uppercase S for that highest, wisest, truest, wildest, most joyful, brilliant and miraculous part of yourself.To help you create a life you don't need to retreat from and feel better every day. You can find out more at thefeelbettereverydaypodcast.com and you can also access information about the book, 365 Ways to Feel Better: Self-care Ideas for Embodied Wellbeing and all the free resources at selfcarecoaching.net as well as ways in which, if you're interested, each Wednesday the Sole to Soul Circle members get an email and exclusive content which goes into a deeper dive around that week's podcast theme.Today's episode, episode 73, is about working with our Inner Children. Especially with trauma and ADHD, Inner Child work can be painful. I know I've been going through a bunch of old photos and I ended up going with this as my main one to work with.A child of the ‘70s, early ‘80s, in the Circle I'll be going into more depth and sharing some of the ways in which I'm working with photos myself and ways in which members can. It's powerful transformational work. You may well have already done some.This podcast episode is to help you recognise that again with trauma, with ADHD, I can't remember the exact number (ADHD brain) but children growing up with ADHD, because we get things wrong, because we're called careless and told we should be trying harder, it's an enormous amount more criticism that we've internalised than our counterparts who are more neurotypical.And that has an impact on our Inner Children. We grow up with a lot of shame.With trauma recovery there's an enormous amount of shame where we were too little to save ourselves, but we still internalise it.Inner Child work and be transformative and joyful and also really painful. That picture I chose, I hadn't remembered it but I was actually looking for a different picture which I remembered from when I started my Inner Child work more consciously coming up two decades ago and finding a picture of myself at age five or six on a bike in the 1970s/1980s on the cul-de-sac I lived on at the time.When I saw it the other day it was like, “Oh what a sweet little kid!” Because I've done so much Inner Child work.Whereas back then, I was filled with loathing and disgust for her! Like why hadn't she done more to like save herself?If, when I'm saying to you, “You might want to find a photo to represent these different Inner Children for yourself” I'm talking to you not as a one-to-one trauma therapist but through a podcast.I don't know who you are, I don't know where in the world you are and I am trusting you to look after yourself and your Inner Children rather than going too deep and finding it more painful than anything needs to be.Again with trauma, with ADHD, we're used to pain, we're used to things being hard.Inner Child work can be delightful. It can be gentle. It can be so healing but in that not overwhelming cathartic way.Thinking about your different Inner Children, maybe find a picture to represent your...