Beneath the Armor: Why Strong Men Are Failing at Love with James Ray

James resources:Website: https://www.xcc.org.uk/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-ray-a6400b72/In this episode we:Why the wilderness is good for men (and to be together as men)What masks and armour have we worn as men and why?What is Alpha male and how does it serve us?Fierce and tender 'all the time' [Last of the Mohicans]Responsibility (you are 100% responsible for your life) and balance (be aware of the extremes). Take responsibility for yourself. Take responsibility for what's next. Mansplaining - Why do we do it and what the hell is it?Joining community - we have to bend and twist, but it will be a great good for usOur Resources:My Website: https://www.damngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppierLinks etcLink for intelligent change https://www.intelligentchange.com/?rfsn=8339894.e05f4e7&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=8339894.e05f4e7Use discount code: DAMNGOODLISTENER for 10% discountIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformTell us a bit about yourselfWhat have men been lacking and what are they currently lacking?Alpha males - nature storyVictimhoodWhat do men say is missing in relationship?They really thought it was a trade, I do this for you and you do this for me. You look after the kids and the home and I go to work to earn the money and then when I get home I want good sex and time with my friends.Now in working relationships where both partners are working often fullt time, but she also has familial responsibility, things are wearing a bit thinWhat does strong look like?Emotionally strong, means you say sorry and mean it, admit and see when you are wrong, be willing to take responsibility or ownership when your partner screws up and don't hold it against her. Being able to hold a hard line with your kids when necessary and know when they want a tender touchKerry says Daniel Day Lewis in Last of the Mohicans in the perfect male