Going Deeper with Benjamin Leppier

Our Resources:My Website: https://www.thedamngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppierLinks etc:Link for intelligent change https://www.intelligentchange.com/?rfsn=8339894.e05f4e7&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=8339894.e05f4e7Use discount code: DAMNGOODLISTENER for 10% discountIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformMost couples come to relationship work with a list.A list of what their partner does wrong.A list of what needs to change.A list of disappointments, frustrations, resentments and unmet needs.And honestly, many of those complaints are completely valid.But the longer I do this work, the more I realise that most couples are trying to solve the wrong problem.Because often the relationship problem is not actually the relationship problem.The real suffering tends to come from the stories we attach to our partner’s behaviour.A forgotten moment becomes:“He abandoned me.”A distracted answer becomes:“She doesn’t care about me.”A conflict becomes:“I’m not important.”“I’m alone.”“I’m rejected.”“I’m unsafe.”And once these stories take root, the mind begins searching for evidence to confirm them.The mind becomes a private investigator.We stop meeting our partner and start meeting our story about them instead.Fear Is LoudOne of the central ideas explored in this episode is that fear dominates attention far more easily than love does.Fear feels urgent.Fear feels like survival.Fear barges into the room demanding certainty, reassurance and control.Love is quieter.Love waits to be invited.Most relationship reactions are not actually expressions of truth. They are fear responses disguised as certainty.“I’ll relax when you change.”“I’ll feel safe when you behave correctly.”“I’ll feel loved when you finally understand me.”People build entire marriages around this strategy, despite having very little evidence that it actually works.The Control TrapMuch of the conflict in relationships comes from trying to control discomfort internally by controlling someone externally.If I can get you to behave correctly, perhaps I can finally rest.But control is often fear wearing responsibility’s clothes.And underneath most controlling behaviour sits something much more vulnerable:fear of abandonmentfear of rejectionfear of not being enoughfear of being controlledfear of being unseenfear of being unimportantThis episode explores what happens when we stop trying to “win the case” against our partner and instead become curious about the fear underneath our own reactions.What Doing “Your Work” Actually Looks LikeDoing your own work does not mean becoming passive, silent or endlessly self-blaming.It looks more like:catching yourself building a court casenoticing criticism before it leaves your mouthfeeling the fear underneath the angerbecoming curious instead of certaintaking responsibility for your reactionssaying:“I’m scared.”“I feel rejected.”“I don’t feel important.”Instead of disguising those feelings as criticism, withdrawal, punishment or control.A central idea in the episode is this:Awareness interrupts automatic suffering.The Hardest QuestionPerhaps the deepest question explored is this:“Can I stop demanding that my partner removes my fear for me?”Your partner can support healing.But they cannot do your work for you.And strangely, this is not bad news.It is the beginning of freedom.Because the moment we stop trying to reprogram another human being into our emotional safety plan, we begin getting our lives back.Final ReflectionGreat relationships are not made of perfect people.They are usually built by two imperfect people becoming:more honestmore awareless defendedless controllingless afraidLove breathes in responsibility, not control.

SummaryIn this deeply personal solo episode, Ben shares the unfiltered story of his relationship with desire, intimacy, addiction and faith, and the long road that followed. From early experiences of wanting to be wanted, through chaotic relationships, substance abuse and the shame that came with it, he reflects on how a relentless hunger for attention quietly shaped his life and nearly destroyed what mattered most.Ben speaks honestly about the collapse of a long relationship, the years of drugs and distraction that followed, and the moment he realised that believing you need something can drive you to sacrifice everything for it. Along the way, he explores the unexpected turning points, meeting Kerry, becoming a father, losing everything financially, and slowly learning how to sit with pain rather than run from it.The episode traces a spiritual and psychological awakening, from men’s work and grief rituals to a profound moment of inner reckoning that brought self-forgiveness, peace and a new way of seeing himself. This is not a story of arrival, but of honesty, humility and ongoing work.If you’ve ever tried to fill an inner emptiness with sex, success, substances, spirituality or approval, this conversation is for you.Our Resources:My Website: https://www.thedamngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppierLinks etc:Link for intelligent change https://www.intelligentchange.com/?rfsn=8339894.e05f4e7&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=8339894.e05f4e7Use discount code: DAMNGOODLISTENER for 10% discountIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransform

When Love listens buy it now - http://bit.ly/4ptPpxmWhat if the breakdown in your marriage wasn’t the end—but the beginning of something deeper, stronger, and far more honest than anything you’ve had before?When Love Listens: The Marriage Book You Never Got (But Definitely Needed) is a lifeline for couples who are exhausted from trying, fed up with feeling unseen, and quietly terrified that their relationship is slipping through their fingers. This isn’t another surface-level self-help book full of vague advice and tidy clichés. This is the real thing—raw, compassionate, and relentlessly practical.Marriage coach Ben Leppier brings over a decade of in-the-trenches experience to this book. He’s worked with hundreds of couples and seen it all: the stonewalling, the sexless months (or years), the parenting battles, the resentment that builds like plaque in your emotional arteries. He’s sat with people in their ugliest moments—and helped them find the courage to love differently.This book is not about fixing your partner. It’s about understanding the patterns, pain points, and survival strategies that silently sabotage connection. It’s about learning the difference between listening to defend and listening to understand. It’s about responsibility—not as blame, but as power. It’s about growing up emotionally, without losing the messy, beautiful vulnerability that intimacy requires.You’ll find:Stories of real couples navigating real chaos—with honesty, heartbreak, and hopeTools to stop circular arguments and actually move forwardDeep dives into the emotional dynamics underneath money fights, sexual disconnection, and parenting pressureInsight into identity, ego, childhood wounds, and how they show up in adult loveA powerful section on the Enneagram to help you understand yourself—and your partner—like never beforeYou won’t find neat formulas or false promises. Instead, you’ll find clarity, courage, and a roadmap that helps you recover the love you thought was lost—and build something more meaningful in its place.Whether you’re the one doing all the emotional heavy lifting, or the one who’s finally ready to show up differently, When Love Listens meets you where you are and calls you forward. It’s a book that doesn’t sugar-coat the truth, but holds your hand through it.If you’re done with shallow fixes, and ready for deep repair—this is your book.Ben’s approach is deeply informed by the likes of Brene Brown, Richard Rohr, Byron Katie, and the Enneagram framework—but it’s not theoretical. It’s gritty, grounded, and forged in the crucible of real-life relationship struggle. He doesn’t write from an ivory tower; he writes as someone who’s made his own mistakes, learned the hard way, and walked the long road back to connection in his own marriage.When Love Listens isn’t just a book—it’s a mirror, a flashlight, and a map. A mirror to see your part more clearly, a flashlight to illuminate what’s really going on beneath the surface, and a map to help you move forward with intention and love. You’ll laugh, cry, feel seen—and, most importantly, start to believe that healing is possible.If you’ve ever sat across the room from someone you used to feel so close to and wondered, “How did we get here?”—this book will help you answer that. And if there’s still a pa

Our Resources:My Website: https://www.thedamngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppierLinks etc:Link for intelligent change https://www.intelligentchange.com/?rfsn=8339894.e05f4e7&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=8339894.e05f4e7Use discount code: DAMNGOODLISTENER for 10% discountIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformTodays Q&A Content:1 - My husband constantly gets angry around the kids. I hate it and, honestly, it intimidates me. What can we do?Anger is really unpleasant to be around, it says a number of thingsI don't care about you only meIt can feel threatening like you might be physically hurtWhen someone is angry at you, it's hard to see anything other than what they might do to you. Unless its your children, then you might determine, this is awful, what are they going to d to themselves, then we jump into the pain pit of 'I am a terrible parent'Well you are the kind of person listening to this so that helpsThe angry people who really need to hear this will not be seeking it because they don't even know they need it,m they haven't even woken up yetOne thing for sure, is that there is always some untreated hurt underneath the angerYou get what you need firstPartner second - see them clearly before you can help themKids 3rdThere may be previous life events that they are still carrying from back in primary school they might be having a tough time at work and feeling like they aren't providing, if you haven't had sex in a while and haven't spoken about it, they might be feeling unattractive and distant from you physically. There are a multitude of reasons 2 - Every time I try to bring something up, it turns into an argument. How do we break that cycle?You're saying I need you to love me, he says I need you to love me, then you say No No NO, you aren't listening again you need to listen to me!Timing, timing, timing. If he just walks in the door and barks at the kids - that is not the time to bark at him. I am not saying that his anger is acceptable, merely helping you find an effective time TO communicate with himSo get the kids down to bed, let him know after dinner that you would really like to talk about X & Y for 30 minutes after the kids are down. If he is really not in a good place you either scrap it that night or tell him, do whatever you like to relax until I come down then we can talk.Know that whatever you say, he will have a counter argument and believe that what you have to say is unfair or unjust, he can't help it. You have a long way to go but this is a great start. In other words once you have told him what you want he will also want to tell you what he wants to change and that's alright.You do get to say - Can we talk about what you want tomorrow, if you are just not in that place. As calmly as you can suggest checking in again same time next week to see how we're doing with it - this is an accountability issue as much as it is a behavioural issue3 - I am afraid of my wife - she wants everything perfect all of the time and if I am not on point 100% of the time, then its hellhttps://www.enneagraminstitu

To find out more go to: https://www.malesireland.ie/rites-2/Content:Listen to the voices of men who stepped into the unknown as boys and emerged as men, grounded in their value and clear in their place in the world. Their stories are raw, real, and transformative.Is it time you answered the call?The Rites of Passage is being held in Ireland this year and we warmly invite you to follow the link and apply.  The next Rites of Passage event in the UK is being planned for 23rd - 27th July 2025.This is not about religion, but about spirituality.  About age-old traditions that guide men into manhood.  About coming to trust that there is something much greater at work in your life than you could ever imagine. Taking you sometimes OUT of your comfort zones, but more deeply back into your own life. You may find yourself mentally, intellectually, emotionally or spiritually challenged. This is part of the experience for some men: it may feel risky or uncomfortable; you may not always feel in control. Throughout the 5 days you will be held by an experienced team of male elders who have all previously undertaken the Rites themselves. As the Elders take you through the process of the Rites you will experience drumming, ritual, fire, silence, small groups, wilderness, solo-time, teaching... and more.Our Resources:My Website: https://www.damngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppierLink for intelligent change https://www.intelligentchange.com/?rfsn=8339894.e05f4e7&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=8339894.e05f4e7Use discount code: DAMNGOODLISTENER for 10% discountIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransform

James resources:Website: https://www.xcc.org.uk/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-ray-a6400b72/In this episode we:Why the wilderness is good for men (and to be together as men)What masks and armour have we worn as men and why?What is Alpha male and how does it serve us?Fierce and tender 'all the time' [Last of the Mohicans]Responsibility (you are 100% responsible for your life) and balance (be aware of the extremes). Take responsibility for yourself. Take responsibility for what's next. Mansplaining - Why do we do it and what the hell is it?Joining community - we have to bend and twist, but it will be a great good for usOur Resources:My Website: https://www.damngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppierLinks etcLink for intelligent change https://www.intelligentchange.com/?rfsn=8339894.e05f4e7&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=8339894.e05f4e7Use discount code: DAMNGOODLISTENER for 10% discountIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformTell us a bit about yourselfWhat have men been lacking and what are they currently lacking?Alpha males - nature storyVictimhoodWhat do men say is missing in relationship?They really thought it was a trade, I do this for you and you do this for me. You look after the kids and the home and I go to work to earn the money and then when I get home I want good sex and time with my friends.Now in working relationships where both partners are working often fullt time, but she also has familial responsibility, things are wearing a bit thinWhat does strong look like?Emotionally strong, means you say sorry and mean it, admit and see when you are wrong, be willing to take responsibility or ownership when your partner screws up and don't hold it against her. Being able to hold a hard line with your kids when necessary and know when they want a tender touchKerry says Daniel Day Lewis in Last of the Mohicans in the perfect male

Our Resources:My Website: https://www.thedamngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppierSummaryIn this episode 5 men openly discuss their own personal views on:Why are they attracted to mens work?What IS mens work to them?What is a friend?They discuss real life situations and dig into how mens groups fill a gap for them or make a bridge to a place they would rather go and live the way they really want to live.Links etcLink for intelligent change https://www.intelligentchange.com/?rfsn=8339894.e05f4e7&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=8339894.e05f4e7Use discount code: DAMNGOODLISTENER for 10% discountIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransform

Our Resources:My Website: https://www.thedamngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppierLiams resources:Website and tickets: Click hereInsta: Click here for Liams InstaSummaryLinks etcLink for intelligent change  click hereUse discount code: DAMNGOODLISTENER for 10% discountIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransform

Our Resources:My Website: https://www.thedamngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppierSummaryThat word ‘sex’ can bring up SO much for someone - Sex can be a wonderful complement to an already loving relationship, sex can be healing, loving, tender, sex can be wild, rough and passionate. Sex has been abused time and time again and as a result there can be so much confusion, about our need for it, where and when we go for it and how really take care of another person whilst doing it. With very little healthy guidance available, even initiating and discussing it with partners seems to create the most complex of atmospheres and communication….Questions for the group were:What does that word ‘sex’ bring up for you?What does unhealthy and healthy sex look like to you?In what ways has your need for sex created problems in your relationships?What advice would you give to young men about how to have a healthy sex life?Links etcLink for intelligent change https://www.intelligentchange.com/?rfsn=8339894.e05f4e7&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=8339894.e05f4e7Use discount code: DAMNGOODLISTENER for 10% discountIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransform

Why men often struggle to express emotions and how embracing vulnerability can lead to deeper connections.The subjects explored on this podcast:Rather than be vulnerable, what do you do instead?What do you believe you need in this environment to feel and allow vulnerability?When have you experienced a man being truly vulnerable with you? (e.g. This might be a man confiding in you, disclosing very person information, being honest about himself in a way he never has with someone etc)Link for intelligent change https://www.intelligentchange.com/?rfsn=8339894.e05f4e7&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=8339894.e05f4e7Use discount code: DAMNGOODLISTENER for 10% discountIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformOur Resources:My Website: https://www.thedamngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this revolutionary episode we host a mixed circle This format is an ancient indigenous method of communication for people The people in this episode open their hearts and minds Its is their first time together There will be 3 episodes How have you tried to change the world? How have you tried to change your family? How have you tried to change you? Based on the poem: “When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world.I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation.When I found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn’t change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family.Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world.”Unknown monk, c. 12th centuryIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformOur Resources:My Website: https://www.thedamngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this revolutionary episode we host a mixed circle This format is an ancient indigenous method of communication for people The people in this episode open their hearts and minds Its is their first time together There will be 3 episodes How have you tried to change the world? How have you tried to change your family? How have you tried to change you? Based on the poem: “When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world.I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation.When I found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn’t change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family.Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world.”Unknown monk, c. 12th centuryIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransform Our Resources: My Website: https://www.thedamngoodlistener.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/ Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this episode we discuss:What does it mean to 'make a committment'We touch on Brazilian JiujitsuWe touch on relationshipsWe touch on 'tapping out to pressure'Marathon preparationGoing that little bit further when its already hardIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformOur Resources:My Website: https://www.thedamngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this  podcast:"5-Minute Magic: Kickstart your health journey with just 5 minutes a day. Embrace Imperfection: Achieve consistency through imperfect action. Progress, not perfection! Your Body, Your Lab: Craft a personalised diet as unique as you. Resilience Reimagined: From 'all or nothing' to 'always something'—reignite your fitness journey! If you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformOur Resources:My Website: https://www.thedamngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppierNico's stuff:Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicovalla/Website: https://onehabitcoaching.comInsta: https://www.instagram.com/onehabitcoachingFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/OneHabitCoaching

In this video of how to coach, how to crate space and the power of being vulnerable we:Have a live coaching experience Ben opens up about his fears of promoting himself and his new bookHave an insight into a man being emotionally vulnerableWhat it looks like to create a safe space for someoneThe power of coachingIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformOur Resources:My Website: https://www.thedamngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppierDawns details:Website - www.dawnlucht.com The New Dawn Podcast -https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-new-dawn-podcast/id1538188624 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dawnlucht_Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/luchtdawn

In this episode we discuss:Couples that have not agreed money rules and take money from eachotherAnger in the homeHow does fear around money manifest in the relationship?When money spends are hidden from the other partnerIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformOur Resources:My Website: https://www.thedamngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this episode we discuss:Look on the very positive side of the future of techWhat is artificial intelligenceWhy it isn't scaryHow it can benefit us as business owners, self builders, parentsHow to invite ChatGPT into our lives (and tell it off)Steve has some rantsSteves links:https://newicon.net/our-workSteves tictok badboy: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGJ4Phmq5/If you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformOur Resources:My Website: https://www.thedamngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this episode our guests:Describe the situation or story that was taking place in their lives when they turned to alcoholDescribe their relationship with themselves at that time. What were they aware of/unaware of?Describe what did the people around them taught them about alcohol as a childHow they hid/justified their drinking and did anybody ever try to tell them about their addiction and their subsequent response.What was the real turning point for their journey of recovery and self discovery. Links to help https://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/ - The real deal in personal transformation from addictionhttps://al-anonuk.org.uk/ - Helping members of families and other victims of alcohol abuseIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformOur Resources:My Website: https://www.thedamngoodlistener.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this episode the new dawn podcast asked us some big questions:What is really responsible for relationship breakdown?What do we do if our partner dos not want to open up and connect?Men expressing their feelings and the challenges with itWomen expressing their feelingsHow to understand your differing communication styles and what you can do about itDawns details:Website - www.dawnlucht.com The New Dawn Podcast -https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-new-dawn-podcast/id1538188624 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dawnlucht_Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/luchtdawn If you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformOur Resources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedamngoodlistener/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this episode we ask some big questions:Have you/do you currently struggle with pornography right now?Are there certain times or certain emotional states that drive you towards using pornography?When and where did shame develop around pornography?Is pornography healthy or unhealthy for males?In your experience and/or from what you have heard from other man what are the dangers and risks of using pornography?If you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformOur Resources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukFacebook (must apply to join): Wild heart wild health - free Facebook group Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wildheartwildhealthLinkedin: benjaminleppier

In this episode we discuss:1) Who are Allan, James and Ben2) How has the pandemic been for you personally?3) What have you had to let go of or grieve through the pandemic4) What mindset/attitudes and/or emotional states do not work5) Mens work6) The top 3 things a person needs to move forwards in 2022Allan links:https://www.allanspeaks.comhttps://www.facebook.com/AllanSpeaks/James links:https://jamesmccourt.co.ukhttps://www.facebook.com/hiddendepthscoaching/If you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformOur Resources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukFacebook (must apply to join): Wild heart wild health - free Facebook group Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wildheartwildhealthLinkedin: benjaminleppier

In this episode we discuss:1) The impact of environment / nutrition / psychology2) The 4 pillars of health:Good physical healthDecent wealth (in every sense of the word)To be clear on your PURPOSETo develop and be pat of community3) The impact of the last 18-20 months on our stress levels4) How is stress developed and what are the consequences5) What has been the past, present and will be the future of health6) What does total responsibility look likePeters links:https://www.pvhs.org.ukPeter Chan Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/peter.chan.100Dr Paul Mason - AustraliaProfessor Tim Noakes - South AfricaIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformOur Resources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukYoutube: https://youtu.be/l8WMoqZQ54AFacebook (must apply to join): Wild heart wild health - free Facebook group Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wildheartwildhealthLinkedin: benjaminleppier

In this episode I discuss:1) Men and their emotions - general2) What men hide3) Ignoring and denial of them4) Make it OK to talk about our emotions5) Some great poetry :0)Youtube video for episode:https://youtu.be/2mIVUltHVrMIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformOur Resources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.uk

In this episode I discuss:1) What the hell are we doing?2) Life in a small space with 5 people3) How we flourished and didn't fail4) What are our key learnings5) Whats next?If you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformOur Resources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: https://youtu.be/tWHiU-bENrgConnect with me:Facebook (must apply to join): Stress free Dads - free Facebook group Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this episode Steven and I discuss:1) The impact of poor time management2) How time management causes stress and anxiety3) How we can calculate our approximate 'cost per hour' and evaluate our choices more effectively4) Laugh at what time management mistakes Ben makesIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformStevens resources:Website: https://www.27andahalf.co.ukMOT test: https://27andahalf.scoreapp.comBuy the book: https://www.27andahalf.co.uk/timeltd/Our Resources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereConnect with me:Facebook (must apply to join): Stress free Dads - free Facebook group Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

We have ‘The marriage whisperer’ Ben this week breaking down the emails we get from couples who are tearing their hair out trying to communicate with their partners and their partners ‘just don’t get it’!What can we do in these situations?We have:1 Wife feels 'ganged up' on2 Husband prioritising Mum instead of wife3 The damage of excessive feedback4 Anger broken down for men and what we can do about itIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformOur Resources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereConnect with me:Facebook (must apply to join): Stress free Dads - free Facebook group Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this podcast we discuss:The new model of DadsHow do we define 'success' from there?What is equality in the home?Parenting - how to empower the kidsIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformIans resources:Lockdown Dads Podcast - www.inspiringdads.co.uk/lockdown-dadsMedia links - www.inspiringdads.co.uk/mediaBlog posts - www.inspiringdads.co.uk/latest-newsLinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/iandinwiddy/Facebook group - www.facebook.com/groups/TheWorkingDadsClubTwitter - twitter.com/IanDinwiddyOur Resources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereConnect with me:Facebook (must apply to join): Stress free Dads - free Facebook group Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this podcast we discuss:What is addiction really covering up?What stress looks like according to GP's?How are GP's suggested to deal with stress in patients?How we hide from and deny our ailmentsLiving in the light and the truthIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/headtohearttransformOur Resources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereConnect with me:Facebook (must apply to join): Stress free Dads - free Facebook group Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this episode we cover:What is imposter syndrome?How can we tell if we have imposter syndrome?How does imposter syndrome affect stress and wellbeing in men?How can we ‘see’ and detect imposter syndrome? What can we do to let go of, reduce or improve how we identify with being an imposter?If you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:Click here to donate to stress free dadsTaras resources:Website: http://www.completesuccess.co.ukLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tara-halliday-phd/Book: http://bit.ly/TH_UnmaskingFree Imposter Syndrome Test: http://bit.ly/ImpostorQuizOur Resources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereConnect with me:Facebook (must apply to join): Stress free Dads - free Facebook group Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this podcast Florence and Eden help us with:How does it feel for children when we are stressed and angry?What would you like us to do rather than be stressed?What is love according to 8 and 6 year olds?What can Daddies be doing better to love their kids?If you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:Click here to donate to stress free dadsOur Resources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereConnect with me:Facebook (must apply to join): Stress free Dads - free Facebook group Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this podcast Kerry and I answer and respond to:Why doesn’t she want more sex when she enjoys it?I have to initiate all the timeI feel stressed and overwhelmed what can I do?I can’t win nothing I do for her ever feels enough!I make all the money and all she does is spend it!She isn’t telling the story the way it actually was, if she saw it how it happened, we could talk about it!She never follows through when disciplining the kids!Kerry’s top 3 things wives see men can do to relieve stressIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:Click here to donate to stress free dadsOur Resources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereConnect with me:Facebook (must apply to join): Stress free Dads - free Facebook group Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this episode we discuss and answer:The top 4 things rich dads do and poor dads don'tHow to cultivate delayed gratification?What sense do we make of debt?What part can having faith play in building money?If you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:Click here to donate to stress free dadsCharlies resources:https://www.investec.com/en_gb/wealth/our-offices/cheltenham/team.htmlOur Resources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereConnect with me:Facebook (must apply to join): Stress free Dads - free Facebook group Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this episode we discuss and answer:How have men got to where they are (and where is that)What is spirituality?What is ‘men’s emotional work’?What is father hunger?What really matters?How is stress developed in the chasing and pursuit of being enough?If you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:Click here to donate to stress free dadsJim's resources:https://illuman.orgFacebook: Click hereOur Resources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereConnect with me:Facebook (must apply to join): Stress free Dads - free Facebook group Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this episode we discuss:1) The power of meditation2) Give a 5 minute landing meditation3) Help us learn how to understand 'where we are' as men4) A yoga Nidra of 10 mins to finishIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:Click here to donate to stress free dadsAmandas resources:http://www.patreon.com/AmandaHamiltonFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/amanda.hamilton.31586Our Resources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereConnect with me:Facebook (must apply to join): Stress free Dads - free Facebook group Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this episode Tony and I discuss:How to find the magic number to help you design your financial life?Is being safe and cautious ok?How many investments are enough?Involving wives and partners in financial decision makingIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:Click here to donate to stress free dadsResources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereTonys resources:Youtube channel: Click here Facebook: Click hereConnect with me:Facebook (must apply to join): Stress free Dads - free Facebook group Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this episode we:Talk about cold water therapyThe emotional and spiritual benefits of breath workHow to be more in the nowWhy nature is critical for a stress free lifeIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:Click here to donate to stress free dadsResources:My Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereMartins resources:Website: https://www.martinpetrus.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/martinpetrus_Connect with me:Facebook (must apply to join): Stress free Dads - free Facebook group Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this podcast we discuss:What does a stress free diet look likeHow to find motivation to train/exercise and sustain itMaking a plan and committing to itMale libido, how does our diet and stress affect it?If you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:Click here to donate to stress free dadsResources:Free Gift: Click here to get your free giftMy Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereJons resources:Website: https://www.ascend360.co.ukBook recommendation: Endure: Mind, Body and the Curiously Elastic Limits of Human PerformanceConnect with me:Facebook: Stress free Dads - free Facebook group (must apply to join)Instagram: instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this podcast we discuss, the top 10 Marriage MUST haves for a successful marriage:Have to understand yourself first. Accept that you can’t give what you haven’t got to give and your partner cannot give you what they haven’t got Everyone has the right to choose Your marriage must be your No.1 priority and decisions made in accordance with this principle I am 100% responsible for my outcomes The topic of sex must be open for discussion - always Have a plan around money and agree how it is to be managed Ask for what you want clearly with words - Most requests can be met if both are willing to make adjustments to the requestFind someone who can hear you and point out your madness if your spouse cannot Find things you enjoy doing together - partners that have fun together stay together Always look for what to be grateful for rather than what is missingIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:Click here to donate to stress free dadsResources:Free Gift: Click here to get your free giftMy Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereConnect with me:Facebook: Stress free Dads - free Facebook group (must apply to join)Instagram: instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this podcast we discuss:How to involve your family in your money and life visionHow to select skillsets and put them in the right placesHow to finally decide who has the final say around moneyHow to recover from business and financial failureIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:Click here to donate to stress free dadsResources:Free Gift: Click here to get your free giftMy Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereSaj Hussain resources:Youtube: Click hereFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/propertysajConnect with me:Facebook: Stress free Dads - free Facebook group (must apply to join)Instagram: instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this podcast we discuss:What is financial wellbeingHow to let go of money fears and live more freelyHow to ask better questions of ourselvesOur income doesn't define us, so what does?If you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:Click here to donate to stress free dadsResources:Free Gift: Click here to get your free giftMy Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereInterviewees resources:Employee biz ownership: https://theeternalbusiness.comFinancial wellbeing podcast: Click hereOvation financial planning: https://ovationfinance.co.ukConnect with me:Facebook: Stress free Dads - free Facebook group (must apply to join)Instagram: instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this podcast we discuss:How to have energy and zest for lifeHow to use money to support life goals and visionHow to let go of money fearHow to cultivate a positive approach to money and the management of itIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:Click here to donate to stress free dadsMartins resources:Youtube Channel: YouTube/informedchoiceResources:Free Gift: Click here to get your free giftMy Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereConnect with me:Facebook: Stress free Dads - free Facebook group (must apply to join)Instagram: instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this podcast we discuss:Are government on a mission to keep us in debt?Who is really responsible and how to take up more financial responsibility How to work together around money in marriageWhat is giving and how can we become more generous in our dealings with moneyIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:Click here to donate to stress free dadsResources:Free Gift: Click here to get your free giftMy Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereInterviewees resources:Website: https://mamafurfur.comYoutube: https://youtube.com/c/mamafurfurHelpful money based tools etc: https://mamafurfur.com/stuff/Connect with me:Facebook: Stress free Dads - free Facebook group (must apply to join)Instagram: instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

In this podcast we discuss:Our earliest money teachersWhat behaviours are helpful and unhelpful around moneyHow to get ahead in the money gameWhy focusing on our money brings freedomIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:Click here to donate to stress free dadsResources:Free Gift: Click here to get your free giftMy Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereInterviewees resources:Learning centre: https://meaningfulmoney.tv/learning-centre/Podcast: https://meaningfulmoney.tv/mmpodcast/Website: https://meaningfulmoney.tvConnect with me:Facebook: Stress free Dads - free Facebook group (must apply to join)Instagram: instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier

This first episode sets out our mission, why we are doing what we are doing with stress free Dads.I (Benjamin Leppier) is interviewed by a long term dear friend and colleague who is a very successful Dad (Jamie Graham)We address: Find out what FREES us from stress (Finances, Relationships, Exercise & nutrition, Emotional work, spiritual work)Bens personal history (mistakes and madness)Bens coaching experienceBens business experienceHow Stress free Dads intends to support, equip and guide Dads to a more stress free lifeIf you enjoyed this episode why not buy Ben (or Kerry) a coffee, all donations, small or great, are gratefully received:Click here to donate to stress free dadsResources:Free Gift: Click here to get your free giftMy Website: https://www.themarriagepeople.co.ukStress free Dads YouTube Channel: Click hereConnect with me:Facebook: Stress free Dads - free Facebook group (must apply to join)Instagram: instagram.com/stressfreedads/Linkedin: benjaminleppier