Beyond the Bedroom: Honest Conversations About Sex and Partnership with Christie Bemis

Send us Fan Mail In this deeply honest conversation, Steph sits down with Christie Bemis—psychotherapist, somatic sex educator, and relationship coach—to explore one of the most taboo topics in the Midwest: sex and eroticism. Christie shares her personal journey from feeling "broken" during menopause to discovering her own erotic aliveness, and how that transformation impacted every area of her life. This episode dives into practical tools for couples who want to improve their intimate connection, including: • How to take responsibility for your own turn-on • The importance of the "yes, no, maybe" exercise • Understanding your erotic blueprint (and why it matters) • Why scheduling sex can actually be more exciting than spontaneous encounters • Negotiation and communication skills that translate to all areas of partnership • The connection between eroticism, spirituality, and overall life satisfaction Whether you're in a relationship that feels stuck, curious about deepening your connection with your partner, or simply wanting to reclaim your own sense of pleasure and aliveness, this conversation offers a beacon of hope and practical guidance. Christie reminds us that our erotic life isn't just about what happens in the bedroom—it's about cultivating a full "erotic garden" that includes how we move our bodies, connect with ourselves, and show up in the world. Learn more about Christie Bemis: Website: www.christiebemis.com Resources mentioned: "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski, Erotic Blueprints by Jaya, Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent This episode is for anyone ready to break free from shame, explore their desires, and create the relationship they truly want—not just the one they have. Support the show https://www.stephshanks.com https://www.instagram.com/unwrittenwithsteph https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephshanks/ https://www.youtube.com/@stephshanks https://www.tiktok.com/@stephshanks?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc https://www.facebook.com/stephshanksphotography