EPISODE · Sep 14, 2025 · 50 MIN

bh211: a chat with Jess

from bed hoppers - swinging in the UK · host bed hoppers

In this episode we speak to Jess, who shares her personal journey and insights into the ethically non-monogamous lifestyle. Jess, describing herself as a "9-year-old who has been to a lot of therapy", recounts entering the scene through polyamory after university and later discovering swinging post-lockdown. She identifies as solo poly, preferring to engage in swinging independently, shaped by her own desires and boundaries. Jess emphasises the importance of "doing the work" to unlearn monogamous norms, reframing jealousy, and establishing clear boundaries, particularly not dating monogamous individuals or poly people with negative views on swinging. She covers body image issues and overcoming a hierarchy in the swinging community that sometimes invalidates single participants. Check out this podcast now for a delightful stroll through Jess's experiences and the usual questions!   Thanks for hopping into our bed.