Bouncing Back Better: The Resilience Revolution for Women Entrepreneurs

Did you know that bouncing back from adversity holds the key to success for women entrepeneurs? In this episode, I sit down with Tara Geraghty, a resilience expert and certified mindset coach, who reveals why resilience outshines confidence, skill, and even a positive attitude when it comes to lasting achievement in life and business. Show Notes | Transcript "When you know that, hey, even if I get knocked down, I can come back, and I will come back better... you become the most powerful person you know." - Tara Geraghty During our inteview Tara explained that resilience simply means the ability that if you get knocked down, you can pick yourself back up. Drawing from her personal experiences of overcoming domestic violence and navigating her daughter's cancer diagnosis,  Tara shares powerful insights on how resilience can transform adversity into opportunity. Discover how to: Cultivate resilience through small, manageable steps outside your comfort zone Reframe challenges as opportunities for growth and self-discovery Build a supportive community that fosters resilience and personal development Key insights include: Why resilience is more crucial than confidence or skill in achieving long-term success The importance of surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals who believe in your potential How embracing resilience can lead to unexpected opportunities and personal growth Tara also shares the inspiring story behind her global community, "Hey Girl, You Can," and offers practical advice for women entrepreneurs looking to build resilience in their personal and professional lives. Whether you're facing challenges in your business or seeking to unlock your full potential, this conversation offers valuable insights on harnessing the power of resilience. Tune in to learn how you can bounce back stronger and create a life of purpose and fulfillment! Resources: Join the Soulful Women's Network here Receive daily inspirational email messages: bit.ly/LoveLightNotes Need support? Go to engagewithgloria.com to schedule a call. Connect with Tara Website: https://heygirlyoucan.com/ Connect with Live Love Engage: Send Gloria Grace a message ☕ Support the podcast ❤ Love this episode? Leave us a review and rating LinkedIn: Gloria Grace Rand Facebook: Gloria Grace Rand YouTube: Gloria Grace Rand TRANSCRIPT If you thought you already knew how to succeed in business and life, listen up because our guest is about to share the secret sauce that doesn't involve confidence or even your skill set. Intrigued? I hope so. But first, I want to welcome you to Live Love Engage, especially if this is your first time tuning in. I am Gloria Grace, founder of Align to Shine Academy, and I work with spiritually minded women entrepreneurs to break free from self doubt and step into their highest potential. And joining us in just a moment is Tara Geraghty. She is a resilience expert, certified mindset and confidence life coach who empowers others to turn adversity into opportunity. A survivor and etiquette Advocate, she shares 26 plus years of leadership experience through her TEDx talks, bestselling book and global community. Hey girl, you can. And she inspires confidence and lasting success through that organization. And I think that's actually. Well, I know we connected on LinkedIn, but we also, I've also been involved in that community, so it's pretty cool. So without further ado, I'm going to bring her up here and, and welcome you officially, Tara, to Live Love Engage. Yay. I'm so excited to spend this time with you. Oh, me too, me too. And I know that the topic we're talking about today, now to let you in on the secret here, is about resilience. And I know that you have said resilience is actually more important than confidence, skill or a positive attitude. So I'd love to know why you think that. It sounds, sounds interesting, but, but yeah, explain. And I will say that for a long time. So when I, when I was young and I started my first business, I thought it was skill. I thought skill is if you just learn, then you'll be successful. And then after working with hundreds of women, I realized that it really wasn't skill, it was their confidence. Because I could see someone come in who maybe didn't have the highest skill set, but they were super confident and, and they would be successful. So then for a very long time I thought, well, it's confidence. And I do think that confidence counts. I think confidence is important. But then as my daughter has gotten older, so I'm a single parent, I have raised my daughter on my own. She's now off in college and my daughter's an only child. I'm her only parent. Her cousins are much younger than her. She doesn't really have that nuclear support system around her. And I think as I get older and she gets older, I'm not always Going to be here, right? And what is the most important skill set I want to pass on to my daughter that I would feel when I leave this planet, she will be okay. And as I really thought that through and looked at the last few years and watched as she's gone to college and the experience that the other kids are having, it really came down to resilience. If I could only give her one thing that would make her successful in life. It's resilience. And it really trumps confidence, skill, and everything else. And here's why. Because by definition, resilience simply means it's the ability that if you get knocked down, you can pick yourself back up. It literally means to spring back, to spring forward. So I always picture you'll tell by age. Now, do you remember if my hair didn't tell you already, but my age, that. Do you remember those clowns, they had the. They were weighted at the bottom and you blew them up. And they were like the punching bag. You would punch them back, but because they were weighted on the bottom, they would just spring back up. It didn't matter how many times you punched him. It didn't matter how hard you punched him. You could not keep this clown down. It was going to come back up, right? That is how I think about resilience. It's not that you don't get knocked down. Sometimes life knocks you down, right? It's that, can you get yourself back up? And think about it. If, if you don't have that ability, it doesn't matter how confident you are. You could be confident, you're just lying on the ground, right? You can have as many skills, but if you, if the skill is not how to get back up. And I think, wow, life is. You know, sometimes people use that question, why me? Why do things happen to me? You know, I went through a domestic violence divorce the same year my, My daughter was 3 and she had stage 4 cancer. And you would think that would be a good season to ask, why me? I never ask that question. I think it's a narcissistic question because it implies that somehow I'm special and I should get through life unscathed. But the rest of you fools, well, you should have problems, right? It's not a. It's not a helpful question. And so we know that everybody, if you're living life, you're going to get knocked down at some point. And it could be something like a devastating job loss, it could be a divorce, it could be a devastating diagnosis for you. Or in my case, for my child, it could be something that happens in the world. I mean, we just went through this, right, a few years ago. If we do not know how to pick ourselves back up, it is like you are at the mercy of life, and that is scary. When you know you can pick yourself back up, when you know you are resilient, when you know that, hey, even if I get knocked down, I can come back, and I will come back better. I will take what I learned in that ditch. I will take what I learned when I got knocked down. And, boy, I'm going to spring back, and I'm going to spring forward. You become the most powerful person you know, and I think that in. That will extend in every area of your life because you're going to be more likely to say yes to an opportunity. You're going to be more likely to go for your dreams. You're going to be more likely to step out of your comfort zone because you're not going to be afraid. Well, what if I fail? What if I got knocked down? What if it doesn't work out? You know, what if I don't know how to pick myself back up? You'll say yes to those incredible things because in the back of your mind you go, well, if I get knocked down, if I fail, if it doesn't work out, I can pick myself back up. I know how to do that. Right. And it's wild to me that the more I've talked about this and the more I've gone down this rabbit hole of resilience, I go, yes, this is so important. But we're not teaching this in school, we're not teaching this in college. There's no class on how do I become the mentally strongest person I know. Right? Right. And I'm like, this is a life skill we all need. And for sure, if we didn't believe that the last few years with what's happened in the world has taught people we need resilience. Well, that brings me to my next question. That is for someone listening out there, especially women entrepreneurs in particular, how can they start to cultivate resilience for themselves? Yeah, you're not going to like this answer. Okay, Well Let's talk about it. Resilience is a muscle. Okay, so you have a resilience muscle. And how do you build a muscle? Well, the way you build a muscle is you go to the gym, you work it out to the point that it actually tears. You're tearing the fibers, right? You're breaking down the fibers. You're causing a little bit of, quote, trauma, and then the muscle rebuilds itself stronger. That is how you develop muscles. You have to kind of work them, hurt them. And that's why they talk about that good pain, you know, that exercise pain. And then they grow back stronger, and then they grow back stronger, and you keep kind of putting them through a little bit of pain to gro