Boundaries, Self-Worth and Saying No with Barb Nangle | Part 1 of 3

Summary: In Part 1, Katie sits down with Barb Nangle, boundaries coach, speaker, author and podcast host of Fragmented to Whole, for one of the most grounding conversations this season. Barb's life transformed at age 52 through 12-step recovery, where she discovered that the antidote to decades of codependence, people-pleasing and self-neglect was learning to build healthy boundaries.She opens with one of the most powerful definitions of boundaries Katie has heard: boundaries are where you end and another person begins. They are not walls. They are the distance at which you can love both yourself and someone else at the same time. In Part 1, they explore what codependence really looks like in everyday life, why people-pleasing is a survival mechanism rooted in childhood, and how integrity and boundaries are inseparable.Key Takeaways→ Boundaries define where you end and where someone else begins. Without them, you do not even know what you want, like, need or prefer because you are constantly molding yourself around others.→ Boundaries are the distance at which I can love both you and me simultaneously. Before boundaries, Barb was loving others while completely neglecting herself.→ People-pleasing is a survival mechanism, not a character flaw. We learn early that we need the adults around us to be okay with us to survive. That pattern runs into adulthood without us realizing it.→ Integrity and boundaries are the same thing. Living in alignment with your values and honoring what is okay and not okay for you is what integrity actually looks like in practice.→ You can act your way into right thinking. You do not have to wait until you feel worthy to start setting boundaries. The feeling of worthiness follows from the action.→ Intergenerational dysfunction is real. Our parents did what they knew how to do. Forgiveness becomes possible when you understand they literally could not do what they were not capable of. And you get to stop the cycle.→ Your nervous system chooses relief over protection. When your system is in an internal emergency, you default to whatever has historically relieved the discomfort, even if it is the dysfunctional pattern.Where to Find BarbFree 30 minute "Say No without Guilt" callPodcastWebsiteLinkedIn YoutubeWhat's Draining Your Boundaries QuizSupport the showResourcesWebsiteFree Mini Cogno MondaysLearn more about CognomovementTry Cognomovement for yourself!Book a call with KatieCredit: Tom Giovingo, Intro & Outro, Random Voice Guy, Professional ‘Cat‘ HerderMixed & Managed: JohnRavenscraft.comDisclaimer: Katie is not a medical professional and she is not qualified to diagnose any conditions. The advice and information she gives is based on her own experience and research. It does not take the place of medical advice. Always consult a medical professional first before you try anything new.