Boundaries, Self-Worth and Saying No with Barb Nangle | Part 2 of 3

Summary: In Part 2, Barb and Katie continue the conversation by going deeper into what happens when you actually start building boundaries and why the transition period feels so uncomfortable. Barb shares her own journey from volunteering for 15 nonprofits to learning to pour from the overflow, and introduces the concept of picking your discomfort: the lifelong, never-ending discomfort of dysfunction, or the finite discomfort of growth.They also get into how boundaries show up specifically in business, with a detailed case study of a social media manager who went from giving everything away for free to building a thriving, boundaried client base.Key Takeaways→ You cannot pour from an empty cup. The only way to have overflow for others is to fill your own cup first. This is not selfish. It is self-preservation.→ Pick your discomfort. The discomfort of dysfunction is lifelong, never-ending and gets worse over time. The discomfort of growth is finite and has healing on the other side.→ The people who push back when you set boundaries are the people who benefited from you having none. Their reaction is not a sign you did something wrong.→ Discomfort does not mean danger. This is one of the most important things to internalize as you build new boundary patterns.→ Niching is a boundary. Saying clearly who you serve and who you do not is one of the most powerful limits you can set in your business. When you try to serve everyone, you serve no one.→ Undercharging is a boundary issue. When you price below your worth, it is rooted in the same childhood pattern of needing others to be okay with you to feel safe.→ Scope creep is a boundary issue. Giving more and more beyond what was paid for is people-pleasing in a business context and it depletes you just as fast.→ Building new boundary patterns takes time but the pull back to old patterns gets weaker and weaker the more you practice. Every time you hold a boundary, you build self-trust.Where to Find BarbFree 30 minute "Say No without Guilt" callPodcastWebsiteLinkedInYoutubeWhat's Draining Your Boundaries QuizSupport the showResourcesWebsiteFree Mini Cogno MondaysLearn more about CognomovementTry Cognomovement for yourself!Book a call with KatieCredit: Tom Giovingo, Intro & Outro, Random Voice Guy, Professional ‘Cat‘ HerderMixed & Managed: JohnRavenscraft.comDisclaimer: Katie is not a medical professional and she is not qualified to diagnose any conditions. The advice and information she gives is based on her own experience and research. It does not take the place of medical advice. Always consult a medical professional first before you try anything new.