BPD and NPD Attraction

Relationships between people with Borderline Personality Disorder or traits  and people with grandiose narcissism are extremely common. What is going on in these dynamics?  Grandiose narcissists and vulnerable narcissists are also a very common pairing. These relationships can be best viewed as occurring between someone with a dominant personality style and someone with a submissive personality style. As someone diagnosed with both vulnerable narcissism and BPD, Nota chats to Mud, who was diagnosed with NPD and has the grandiose version, as they try to unravel some of the strands on this intriguing combination.   Some links to resources for further reading (a "dominant" personal style can also be seen as embodying a "sadistic" personal style, and a "submissive" personal style can also be seen as embodying a "masochistic" personal style:  https://whatiscodependency.com/narcissists-are-codependents-too/ https://www.antrodichirone.com/index.php/en/2017/01/11/the-dance-between-two-personality-disorders-a-delicate-relationship-balance/ https://evolutioncounseling.com/sadism-and-masochism-are-both-about-control/ https://evolutioncounseling.com/understanding-the-masochistic-life-solution/ https://evolutioncounseling.com/sadism/ https://evolutioncounseling.com/sadists-need-their-victims-and-would-feel-like-nothing-without-them/ https://evolutioncounseling.com/abusers-need-help-too/